Author: Sara

God saved you for a purpose

God saved you for a purpose

So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. (Isaiah 41:10) 

Last week, David and I were privileged to deploy to Perry, FL, to assist Samaritan’s Purse (SP) in disaster relief work again – this time, post-Hurricane Idalia. Idalia made landfall as a Category 3 hurricane on August 30th near Keaton Beach, FL. While Keaton Beach may have been Ground Zero, the sleepy town of Perry, FL – located roughly 20 miles northwest of Keaton – still took a severe blow from the storm. Downed trees punctured homes and knocked out power across the community, where gas pumps were ripped from the ground and businesses caught fire.   

Hanging trees and a collapsed pole building in Perry, FL stand as evidence of Hurricane Idalia’s ferocity.

David and I arrived a week after the hurricane hit Perry, so clean-up efforts were already in full swing. With three-hundred and fifty-nine remaining work orders for tarping roofs, debris removal, and tree clean-up services, SP still needed strong arms and servant hearts to help with the mission. Fortunately, that’s just what David and I came prepared to bring. With more service requests coming daily, that original number had grown to over five hundred open work orders by the time we headed home.   

Each night after dinner, overnight volunteers spend about fifteen minutes sharing our “God Stories” with one another. This time is rejuvenating as we hear of daily conversions or other significant moments when God “showed up” through the work we’re privileged to perform on His behalf.   

For the first two nights of our stay, one of our team leaders, G, spoke of a particular homeowner’s son who weighed heavily on his heart. Robby, he’d learned, had a troubled past, which included heavy drug use that caused him to lose most of his teeth and gained him a criminal record. Robby also told G that he was a former Wiccan. Wicca is a pagan religion whose members meet in Covens to deify a mother goddess or horned god. Wicca rituals often “invoke a deity to enter and possess a coven member, often termed ‘drawing down the moon.'”  

David (top center) works with two other team members to secure an SP tarp on a tin roof.

Having woken from a deep sleep at 3:00 am the morning after he’d met Robby, G felt compelled to pray for another opportunity to witness to this needy soul. After sharing his first encounter during our God Stories time with our entire volunteer workforce of about eighty workers, we all prayed for Robby before retiring for the evening.   

The next night, G shared the news that Robby appeared from the woods that afternoon, just as his team was preparing to leave after working at Robby’s home. As he’d prayed to do, G shared the Gospel of Christ with Robby, who’d told G that he “didn’t know he could come back.” G told Robby that God had been waiting for him since the day he was “woven together in his mother’s womb.” (Psalm 139:13)  

David (top left) helps sweep a tin roof damaged by a large live oak before helping lay down a tarp cover.

After hearing this news, Robby pledged his life to Christ – later telling G that it “felt like a weight had been lifted” from his body. We all cheered and celebrated upon learning of this new, precious addition to our heavenly family.   

The next day, unbeknownst to me, I experienced my own encounter with Robby – never realizing who he was until late in our conversation.   

After a morning spent tarping and clearing another homeowner’s property of downed branches, our team moved to our next assignment – securing a large SP tarp to a damaged mobile home’s roof. While several of our team members had already ventured inside to view the damaged ceilings, I only did so when the owner’s son escorted a fellow team member to view his “lucky mattress.” It never occurred to me that my tour guide was the same Robby we had all prayed for.   

Robby stands where his mattress was positioned in his bedroom and points to the ceiling beams pushed down above where his head rested.

After showing us his mattress – newly housed in the living room – Robby walked us back to his empty bedroom, showing us the open roof where a massive tree had fallen on his house during the storm. More phenomenal than seeing the ceiling split open and smashed inward, I was awestruck by the sight of the roof’s crossbeams pushed down and splintered apart– stopping just above where Robby was sleeping. While the beams themselves were not massive, between the two broken boards stood a footlong piece of lumber that had broken free to form a wooden dagger – dangling precariously above the precise location where Robby’s head and chest were lying on his bed.    

“That’s where you were sleeping?” I asked Robby, incredulously.   

“Yes. When the tree hit, I barrel-rolled out of my bed and ran out of the room screaming,” exclaimed Robby.   

“That wood could’ve easily punctured your head or heart,” I commented. “But God protected you. You are here for a reason.”   

After agreeing, Robby escorted me outside and behind his mobile home to see the tree stump G and his team had carved for him with a chainsaw. In the center of the wood sat a carved image of three crosses on a hill – a simple reminder of the Gospel story.   

“That’s beautiful,” I said before asking Robby if I could take his picture beside the carving. He agreed, and we continued our walk around his parents’ property.   

Robby stands beside the chainsaw carving an SP team created while clearing felled trees from his yard.

Struck by the four-and-a-half-foot-tall tree roots that had been wholly unearthed in the storm, I advised Robby that he now has a tangible reminder of how mighty God is.   

“Anyone that thinks that God isn’t real or that He’s not all-powerful has never seen the damage His hand can invoke during a storm,” I said. “Just think how well rooted this tree was, and yet God’s hand pulled it up as if it was nothing. So many people deny God and yet He, alone, is in charge of everything – not us.”  

Robby agreed, saying, “I know. You’re right.”    

After returning to the front yard, Robby and I moved to the shade, where Robby squatted down, and I knelt to talk more.   

Robby stands near a four-and-a-half-foot tall root base of one of the trees that fell in his yard.

I asked Robby if he’d met with any chaplains this week. He confirmed that he had while explaining that he’d also received a signed SP Bible from the team that cleared his trees the day before.   

“I even read some of it last night,” said Robby.   

“That’s great!” I exclaimed. “The Bible is God’s living Word. A passage you read today might mean something different to you tomorrow. You need to read that Bible every day to stay close to God. More than a sermon, God’s Word will guide you in how you should live.”   

“I’ve made a lot of mistakes in my life,” Robby confessed. “I’ve been a Wiccan and have a criminal record, but I feel lighter after talking to everyone this week.”  

Only after his confession did I realize I was talking to the same Robby that our teams had been praying for the past two nights. I said a silent prayer at that moment, asking my Heavenly Father to give me the right words to say to this precious soul.   

Despite the heat and humidity, David and I feel blessed to help patch another tin roof, ripped open by a tree that fell on a home in the storm.

“We’re all sinners, Robby,” I told him. “Including me. God gave us all free will. We each have to decide what decisions we’re going to make – good or bad. Whatever choices you’ve made in the past, God has forgiven you and spared you for a reason.”  

Robby then explained that he had two young children, ages five and one, living with their mother in Tampa. He further commented about how spoiled they are.   

“That’s my heart, right there,” Robby said, “When I heard that the storm was coming to Tampa, I prayed that it would come here instead.”  

“Well, it sure did!” I exclaimed. “God used this storm for His purpose. Never forget that God saved you.”  

“I know it,” Robby agreed.  

“I don’t know anything about your father,” I explained, “but your Heavenly Father loves you more than anything. He loved you before you were born – even before you were in your mother’s womb. He’s been waiting for you all this time. When you look at those crosses on that tree stump, I hope you’ll always remember that Jesus loves you so much that He would have died to save you – even if you were the only person on earth. That’s how important you are to Him.”  

Additional ceiling and roof damage was caused by fallen trees on Robby’s home.

“Some people think that God is like some kind of grandfather,” I continued, “and that being a Christian will make everything alright. He’s not and it doesn’t. God is love, yes, but He doesn’t spoil us. He lets us make our own choices. Sometimes, we pay a heavy price for our mistakes.”  

“Still, God’s love is all around us,” I said. “He could have made the world black and white, but He didn’t. Instead, we have light and color and beauty wherever we look. I call such things love gifts from God.”  

“Oh, I know,” Robby agreed. “I was watching that heat lighting last night and it was beautiful. I used to look at such things and only see darkness and evil. Now, I’m starting to see things in a whole new way.”   

“That’s God’s love inside you,” I said. “You just have to open your heart to see it.”  

Noticing the pentagram on the inside of Robby’s right wrist, I continued.   

“The devil has been fighting for you your whole life,” I stated. “But so has God. He was right beside you in that storm.”   

“God saved you for a reason,” I repeated. Cupping my hand in demonstration, I continued. “When that tree fell, He placed His mighty hand between you and those wooden beams. It was at that moment that God said, ‘No further.’ He allowed everything to happen even while He was still protecting you.”   

Our SP team poses for a photo with Robby before praying with him and his family.

“We don’t know what the purpose of all this is, but even if it’s only so you can be a Christian father in your children’s lives, that’s another miracle. Your kids need you. They need a Christian dad to lead them the way they should go.”   

Robby explained that after talking with G and the chaplains the day before, he received a call for a temporary job, which meant a lot to him. Serving as a millwright in a paper mill during a factory shutdown, Robby would be paid as a subcontractor to go into the boilers and other equipment to perform repairs.   

“That’s a blessing,” he articulated. “I need to work. I don’t have enough money in my wallet to make cents.” We both laughed at Robby’s pun as he and I got up and moved over to the rest of our team, who were packing our truck for departure.  

“We’ll be praying for you, Robby,” I promised. “We’re all praying for you.”   

David (far left) and two of our SP team members talk through the tarping plan on Robby’s damaged roof.

“Thank you,” he said. “That’s dangerous work I’ll be doing during the shutdown.”   

“God is with you,” I confirmed. “We’ll all keep praying.”   

After praying with Robby and his family, his mother retrieved the SP Bible given to him the day before. I signed it, as did another of our team members, before we hugged everyone and said our goodbyes. We invited Robby and his family to join us for dinner at the church, but he declined, saying he needed to pack for his trip to GA.   

“That’s a standing invitation,” I said. “You’re welcome to visit the church for dinner anytime you can make it. We’d all love to have you there.”   

“Thank you,” was Robby’s sole reply. “Everyone who’s come here to help has been great!”  

David smiles while finishing the challenging tarp job above Robby’s house.

And so, we left – feeling blessed to have heeded our Creator’s call to help. There’s always more kingdom work to be done, and David and I stand ready to perform whatever we’re asked to do. Even though this work was unexpectedly different than what we did in Ft. Myers, I feel privileged to have interacted with Robby and the other homeowners we served.   

After inquiring with our volunteer coordinator, I learned that SP gives the contact information of all those we’ve assisted to our base camp church. Their follow-up is crucial – especially to newly saved Christians like Robby. While our actions help restore the damaged property of natural disaster victims, our servants’ hearts demonstrate the love of Christ, even as our chaplains’ words guide these homeowners into the family of God. Nothing is more important than making an eternal difference to wounded souls.   

As one of our SP leaders in Ft. Myers said last fall, they’ll use anything – including a chainsaw – to share the love of Christ with the world. We are all covered by God’s grace. How can we not tell others how amazing that is?   

Hiding in the walls

Hiding in the walls

You know where I go and where I lie down. You know everything I do. Lord, even before I say a word, you already know it. You are all around me—in front and in back— and have put your hand on me. Your knowledge is amazing to me; it is more than I can understand. Where can I go to get away from your Spirit? Where can I run from you? (Psalm 139:3-7) 

A few weeks ago, David got a little more than he bargained for in his latest house renovation. What started as a simple modernization of a few electrical outlets in his former office took an unexpected turn in both project scope and discovery.  

David’s VA Beach house was built in 1962, so most of the electrical outlets are ungrounded – meaning, you can’t just plug a standard device into them. The outlets are currently equipped to receive 2-prong plugs – not the standard 3-prong plugs that most modern electronics require. Updating his former home is a strategic goal of David’s, so upgrading the outlets is an integral part of this process.  

Before we could start laying new Pergo flooring in his former office, David emptied the room and prepared to make a few minor cuts in the walls to access the outlets. After turning off the electricity, David soon learned that an unexpected nick to one of the cords had severed power to the room.  

To repair the damage, David needed to rip open the wall to run new wire into the space. Convoluted wiring inevitably required multiple walls to be opened for David to make his repairs. Up, down, and sideways, the home’s wiring led from just a few feet off the floor into the attic and back down again – only to return up, down, and sideways across the room.  

Initial view of the cut walls in David’s former office.

“This wiring is a mess,” David explained when I peeked into the room. “They must have used 20-feet more wire than was necessary.” 

“Wow,” was all I could say after glimpsing the plaster-covered drop-cloth and open walls for the first time. “I was wondering what was going on in here.” 

After a night spent contemplating his next course of action, David made his final cuts to the plaster close to the room’s entrance.  

That’s when he made his unexpected discovery. “Honey, you should see what I found in the wall,” David called.  

“If it’s dead bugs, I’d rather not see them,” I rebuffed. I have a mortal hatred of insects that cross the threshold, as David has learned.  

David standing amidst the office walls he’s repairing with new insulation and drywall.

“It’s not bugs,” David replied. “Come see!”  

The wall behind David’s office door always boasted a hand-sized hole – presumably from where the doorknob had dinged the plaster. In addition to repairing the wiring, David anticipated patching the spot when he took on this “small” project.  

Much to our amazement, David unearthed a treasure trove of children’s toys while cutting this final wall, presumably dropped into the space by a former occupant. Freed from their confinement, the following storehouse of trinkets sat sprawled across the floor for my viewing amazement: 

  • 3 Matchbox cars 
  • A 2” rubber Ernie and his fellow Sesame Street buddy, Elmo 
  • A 2” tall rubber horse 
  • A 3-legged, 4” black velvet-covered horse  
  • A blue and yellow felt hat – screen-printed with the word “Sprint” across the folded headband 
  • A vinyl, bifold Spiderman wallet (sans money, sorry to say. I checked, of course.) 

“Oh, my gosh,” I exclaimed upon witnessing David’s discoveries. “I’ll bet the parents of whoever dropped those toys in the wall were always wondering where they escaped to!”  

Hidden treasures in David’s walls.

As we laughed over the tiny treasures, I couldn’t resist saying, “Too bad you didn’t find any gold doubloons in there. Let me know if you do!”  

While later pondering David’s unexpected bounty, I couldn’t help but wonder what possessed that young child from placing his or her toys in the wall. Surely, he or she learned quickly that such an action couldn’t be undone. There was simply no way to unearth the bounty without massive repercussions. Was the child simply done with the toys and didn’t care about them anymore – or was there excitement in merely hiding the trophies? Could this act have been vengeful, or was he or she too young to know better?  

We’ll never know, but the considerations got me thinking of how we, as Christians, frequently believe we can do the same. How often do we try to hide our sinful nature, hoping no one will notice what we’re doing in private? Do we ever consider the penalties of such sin or the ramifications of the same? While we may get away with our actions for a time, such efforts are pointless.  

The Bible has a lot to say about hidden sin. Here are just a few examples:  

  • Nothing is covered up that will not be revealed or hidden that will not be known. (Luke 12:2) 
  • Nothing is hidden that will not be made manifest, nor is anything secret that will not be known and come to light. (Luke 8:17) 
  • Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap. (Galatians 6:7) 

In short, God sees and knows everything. We may successfully hide our transgressions from earthly eyes, but our Heavenly Father can never be deceived. That thought always sobers me as I contemplate standing before the throne of God and giving an account of my life’s deeds – both good and bad. I long to hear Christ say, “Well done, good and faithful servant!” (Matthew 25: 21) Anything less would be incredibly disappointing.  

David adding new drywall to his former office.

I believe honesty to be the best policy, as a result – and I vow always to be transparent and open with my husband, as I am with everyone. David and I spent hours revealing all the skeletons in our closets long before we ever got serious about one another. I never want there to be any secrets between the two of us.  

More importantly, my wrongdoings can never be hidden from my Heavenly Father – which matters to me more than anything. “Behold, you have sinned against the Lord, and be sure your sin will find you out.” (Numbers 32:23) 

And so, David and I will keep our walls tight – never hiding our blemishes or treasures from one another or God. After all, short of gold doubloons being buried in the walls, I never want to later uncover anything that will damage my relationship with my husband – or my Creator. May we all do the same.  

God will make a home with you

God will make a home with you

Jesus replied, “All who love me will do what I say. My Father will love them, and We will come and make Our home with each of them.” (John 14:23)

David and I recently celebrated our 5-month wedding/10-month meeting anniversary on August 12th. Although I realize we’re still considered newlyweds, our love and appreciation for each other are timeless.

How many people marry and tire of each other in just a few weeks or months? Far too many, I fear. And yet, David and I can barely stand to be apart. We’ve waited a lifetime to be together, so every moment is a gift.

That statement is far from hyperbole. With my full-time, remote employment and David’s general retirement status, we are blessed to spend nearly every hour of every day together. We couldn’t do that if our lives weren’t so harmonious. Time apart is as minimal as we can muster. Togetherness, in my estimation, is the truest test of enduring love. We could easily tire of one another if we weren’t well-suited.

David and I share a smile as we kayak together near Jekyll Island, GA.

As someone who was previously married for 14 and then 12 years, respectively, I’ve lived on the opposite side of the spectrum for far too long. As a Christian woman married to professed believers who turned out not to share my faith, I used to feel it was my duty to be the best spouse I could be – all the while praying for hearts to change that had no desire to do so. For 26 years of my life, I endured physical and psychological abuse believing God would convert souls that were both immovable and unrepentant. Pray as I might, our incompatibilities and unequal yokes made for decades of misery that I’ve worked hard to forget. I never had five days or five even hours of anything good in those relationships – let alone five months.

All of that changed when God brought David into my world. My life, my entire existence is different with him. David and I thrive when we’re together and never tire of each other. Before every meal, we consistently pray – thanking God for the miracle of our love. Every day, we laugh, affirm, hold, kiss, and cherish each other more profoundly than the day before.

Every day, we gaze into each other’s eyes and celebrate the incredulity of finding one another. “We met on a bus” or “We got married” are our frequent refrains as we revel in the joy of such blessings. Simple as they sound, these declarations never cease to astound either one of us. We know the Originator of our happiness, and we are so grateful for the same. Our meeting, our compatibility, and our love for one another are all based on our joint devotion to God. We met because we both surrendered to our Savior. Two strangers from different states met under seemingly random circumstances to serve God – never imagining that in doing so, we would find our long-sought soulmates.  

And yet, here we are.

Still, David and I didn’t just meet on a bus, nor did we just happen to get married. I told David we need to refine our simple declarations to better reflect the magnitude of God’s magnificence.

The day after David proposed to me in Fort Myers, FL, the two of us served again with Samaritan’s Purse.

David and I met on a Samaritan’s Purse bus after surrendering our lives to our Heavenly Father’s calling. In response to a natural disaster and in joint service to our Creator, it was there that we found the other piece of ourselves that we’d been searching for since birth. Had we not surrendered, we would never have received the blessing we hold in our hands and hearts today – true love and absolute compatibility. How else can we explain how we can love the same music (from contemporary Christian to classical), the same food (from spaghetti to seafood), and identical taste in movies and TV shows (from period dramas like “All Creatures Great and Small” to epic motion pictures like “Lord of the Rings”). Thankfully, there’s never any fighting over the remote control in our household.

A metal bird bath David and I acquired at an estate sale needed cleaning and sanding before it could be repainted.

David and I understand what it means to work hard – which is a good thing as we’re continually doing so. With the heavy responsibilities of maintaining our GA home as well as my mom’s when she is in CO, our yard work never ends. Two weeks out of every month, we travel back to VA Beach – where we are now – to work on David’s former house or renovation jobs that involve massive, manual labor. I often ask David if he could have ever imagined working with his wife in such a way. He always responds with a resounding, “Never!” Whether we’re digging ditches or re-shingling a roof, we still take the time to kiss, hug, and say “I love you” a thousand times a day.

Our freshly repainted bird bath.

Most importantly, throughout our hectic, helter-skelter existence, we cling to one another and God – celebrating the gift of true love presented to us by our Savior.

Although David and I didn’t do anything special on our anniversary, just being together was reason enough to celebrate. We both worked on renovation projects in our GA yard that day – me sanding a metal bird bath and David spreading epoxy on iron chairs – prepping both for repainting. As I began my project, I paused to turn on one of my favorite contemporary Christian music channels to praise God while I worked.

The first song played was one from our wedding – a favorite of ours by Jeremy Camp, entitled “Getting Started.” As the opening chords began, recognition dawned. David and I immediately gravitated to one another, as we always do, dancing and singing the lyrics to one another and God.

Formerly rusty iron table and chair set David restored and prepped for repainting.

Looking up at the sky while we danced, I was struck by a 2-year-old memory of crying out to my Creator in a rare moment of abject loneliness while formerly working alone in my yard. I still remember the emotions that flooded my spirit as I looked up and told God how much I loved Him – even as my heart despaired at the absence of earthly love. As the cleansing tears streamed down my face, I recall surrendering my despondency to my Heavenly Father. In complete submission to His will, my Creator filled my spirit with His love and faithfulness – as He always did – providing me with everything I needed to go on.

Flash forward to our anniversary. As David and I danced in my yard, singing to God and each other, the tears fell anew as I realized how God always knows what I need when I need it. Two years ago, God knew then – as He always has – what He had in store for my future. I could never have imagined my resounding joy in finding David. Never in my wildest dreams could I have foreseen the beauty that would fill my soul at the reality of being loved.

And yet, here we are.

The repainted table and chairs that David and I restored now graces our GA screen porch.

God’s promises are real. God has always made a home for me and David. Whether we have five years or five millennia together, David and I know how blessed we are. Every day is a gift from God. All we did was heed our Creator’s call. In doing so, our Heavenly Father fulfilled His promise to us. As Christ said, “All who love me will do what I say. My Father will love them, and We will come and make Our home with each of them.” (John 14:23)

To that, I can only say, “Yay, God!”

Teach me to number my days

Teach me to number my days

Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom. (Psalm 90:12) 

Three weeks ago, David and I flew to VA Beach to meet with his urologist to receive the results of his prostate biopsy. We only stayed for two nights as my mom was visiting GA – so we couldn’t be gone long. During our return flight, I wrote a blog on my phone – one painstaking letter at a time. I wanted to capture my thoughts while they were fresh in my head and had the time to do so.

Clear skies surrounded our plane as David and I flew back from VA Beach.

Since we’ve been married, our days are so full that little time remains for me to write – and I miss doing so daily. Between a full work week, evenings and weekends are always spent catching up on yard duties before we return to one or the other of our houses to do the same there. Twice monthly travels between VA Beach and GA make me feel like a bit of a vagabond, but the trips are necessary. Until David’s VA Beach house is ready to sell or rent, we generally spend two to two and a half weeks at either location.

This evening, I was determined to write. At a minimum, I wanted to post the blog I’d written on the plane but never had a chance to edit and upload until finally claiming the time to do so.

And so, it was with great disappointment that I learned the words and emotions I’d captured three weeks ago were gone – vanished, deleted, irretrievably lost.

For a writer, losing words ostensibly secured in the heat of heady sentiment is tantamount to experiencing a knife wound to the gut.

And yet, I know I am exceedingly blessed. Lost words mean nothing compared to what David and I gained during our last trip.

Despite David’s grim potential cancer prognosis, what we’ve been praying for all along has been confirmed – David is cancer-free! How he went from a high probability of stage 3 or 4 prostate cancer to not one cancer cell in his body can only be laid at the feet of Christ. David is healthy, happy, and whole. Upon hearing the results in his urologist’s office, all the two of us could say was, “Yay, God!”

As we hugged and wiped the tears from our eyes before leaving the exam room, one of the staff members poked her head in to make sure we were alright. “Yes, ma’am,” I said. “We’re just happy!”

“Tears of joy,” David confirmed.

Indeed, our Heavenly Father delivered what we’d prayed and trusted God for. The Divine Physician had healed David’s body from the inside out. There’s no doubt in my mind as to the veracity of that claim.

Even David’s urologist seemed stunned. To be confident of the results, the doctor who’d performed the procedure made 24 cuts in 4 regions of David’s prostate – far more than are usually taken.

“I knew it,” I exclaimed as David’s urologist revealed his surgical findings. God has always been in complete control – and David has much more Kingdom work to do than the original prognosis seemed to allow.

Cloudy skies prevented me from seeing below our plane’s wing.

While flying above the clouds on our return journey to GA, I remember looking out and being struck by the cloud structures beneath us. What began as a clear sky quickly became overcast, and I could see nothing beneath us.

And yet blue sky prevailed. Above the clouds, God sees everything.

Our Creator has already foreseen what we can often only discern one foot at a time. Clear, turbulent, or stormy skies aside, God is always with us, and nothing ever takes Him by surprise. As the Apostle Matthew reminds us, “Are not two sparrows sold for a penny? Yet not one of them will fall to the ground outside your Father’s care.” (10:29)

Partly cloudy skies offered only a partial view of the ground beneath our plane.

I’ve always said that every day is a gift – even more so now that I have David to spend the rest of my days with. While every gift may not always be what I want or hope for, I’ve learned to appreciate each offering as a gesture of love presented by someone who cares. If I believe that sentiment to be true – and I do – how much more should I appreciate what my Heavenly Father gives me?

While I may have lost the words I first captured weeks ago, I know how I feel now. I am blessed beyond measure and thank God daily for his unspeakable gifts.

No matter how many days I have left to spend with my beloved husband, I value all of them. I spent too much of my life without David to ever underestimate the great worth of having him beside me now.

David and I celebrate every moment we have together with a shared smile as we visit Jekyll Island, GA.

May we never forget how precious our loved ones are. Each of us has only been given a defined number of days here on Earth. May we spend each of them praising God and serving our Creator.

Who the Son sets free

Who the Son sets free

So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed. (John 8:36) 

David and I celebrated our first Fourth of July together a few weeks ago while working on his VA Beach house renovations. His home is a long-postponed fixer-upper – built in the 1960s – that we’re enjoying renovating together. Well, David is renovating. I’m helping and encouraging him every step of the way.   

David’s original living room with concrete floors and taupe walls.

Watching the transformation is astounding. I’ve always enjoyed restoration jobs myself. I’ve stripped and restored furniture, planned and orchestrated vast landscaping projects, and removed a horrific chalk wall in my former kitchen. I used to think my undertakings were pretty good. They’re nothing like David’s. To see the concrete floors of David’s home be replaced with beautiful Pergo wood plank flooring is phenomenal. What a difference the flooring has made in his house! And the renovations are just beginning.   

A swath of lighter paint shows the future color of David’s walls above his original concrete flooring.

More than that, I remember the day David came to me in GA, jumping up and down in our garage like a little kid. He was so full of energy, joy, and excitement that his actions surprised me. We’d only been married for a few weeks when David decided to flush all his anti-depressants down the toilet. A counselor had prescribed them to him years ago, and he’d faithfully kept taking them, thinking there was no way he could stop doing so.   

“I feel so good! I feel so good! I feel so good!” David kept saying. I remember thinking, is this for real? Could this reaction last? All I knew at the time was that his transformation amazed me.  

I’m happy to report that the changes did last – and the results are beautiful.   

That got me thinking; how many people are walking around today with lives wholly controlled by medication, illegal drugs, or believing that some form of surgery will somehow “make them better”?   

While 2023 statistics are still being calculated, 2016 figures reported that one in six Americans were taking anti-depressants – not yet considering COVID isolation escalations. According to the UK-based Pharmaceutical Journal, in 2022, anti-depressant use escalated by 5.1%, with a whopping increase of 35% in new users over the past six years.   

David sits on the couch in his renovated living room.

The real question is, how many of those who now use anti-depressants genuinely need the medication? According to the Economist, independent studies have shown that only 15% of those taking anti-depressants showed improvement with the drugs versus those taking placebos.   

In 2021, I watched a dear friend plummet from happy to suicidal within months. Despite her previously diagnosed depression, I witnessed firsthand my loved one’s determination to thrive. In just a few short months, Patty had recently recovered from hip surgery, bought herself a new car, and consistently gave God praise and glory for her many blessings in life. After months of not seeing her long-term counselor during her post-surgical recovery, she visited him, prompting a medication modification.  

Freshly painted walls and new flooring completely changed the look of David’s living room.

 Unfortunately, this prescription alteration mutated Patty’s behavior from jubilant to joyless in just a few short weeks. I watched her lose her will to do anything – including cleaning her apartment, bathing, seeing me, or caring for her cat.   

After a month of decline, I called Patty’s doctor to inform him of her altered mood and my concern. He was reluctant to adjust his prescriptions, opting to give her more time to adjust to his prescription changes.   

A little over a month later, after not reaching Patty by phone, I requested a welfare check from her apartment’s management team. Mere words can hardly express the shock and horror I felt after learning that my friend had been found dead. To this day, I remain confident that Patty purposely took her own life via a drug overdose of prescription medication. I still miss her greatly.  

Similar to the societal desire to utilize mood-altering anti-depressants, illegal drug use is continually rising – with fentanyl becoming one of the deadliest offenders. Between 2016 and 2021, fentanyl-related overdose deaths increased by 279% in our nation. David and I recently passed a country home near Chesapeake, VA, with a banner strewn across their front fence featuring the face of a loved one whose life had been tragically ended by fentanyl at a young age. A few years ago, I listened to prosecutors detail the devastation this drug can inflict on a community as I sat on a federal jury seeking to convict a drug dealer on six counts of the distribution of fentanyl. We found him guilty on all counts.  

And what about the rise of life-altering surgeries being pushed on minors who’ve been convinced by the media, teachers, and the internet that they will not be happy until they fully embrace their “self-identified” gender? Apart from the loss of innocence of our youth, the confusion, madness, and chaos inflicted on families facing these challenges is unfathomable.   

Just ask Erin Friday, a California mom who battled the sinister propaganda machine that sought to steal her daughter from her for the gender cult. “This is a $11 billion industry,” Friday said. “It’s a multi-headed hydra. There are people who are pushing this for financial gain; the medical community and the Big Pharma are pushing this because each trans-identified child is worth a million to a million-and-a-half dollars. They are lifelong medical patients.”  

My friend Patty and I celebrated our last Easter together in 2021.

And so I ask again, how many people believe they need something that harms them – sometimes irreparably – because someone told them they needed it?   

How many people are like the woman that news reporter Laura Ingraham interviewed (1:51) on the streets of San Francisco, crying because she felt she had to have fentanyl to cope with life?   

How many doctors prescribe medications to “help” people who don’t need them?   

How many people think they need a drug, medication, or surgery to “fix” what only God and love can do?   

Such thoughts come from the devil. He’s manipulating countless people into seeking anything other than God.   

David and I in Savannah on Memorial Day.

But not David. Not any longer. David is free, thanks to his Savior. My husband is a wonderful, handsome, talented, intelligent, gifted, tender, kind, thoughtful, and uniquely magnificent man. I’m so grateful to God for giving David to me as my husband – and for giving David his freedom.   

While I’m continually amazed by David’s ability to transform projects into masterpieces, I’m more impressed by what our Heavenly Father has done to ultimately convert David’s body and spirit into a new creation. As 2 Corinthians 5:17 reminds us, “If anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come:[a] The old has gone, the new is here!”   

David’s and my lives are better for our Savior’s touch. We perpetually pray that all those seeking God will find liberty in His transforming power – just as we have. After all, as John 8:36 reminds us, “if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.” 

God’s perfect timing

God’s perfect timing

Over the past few weeks, David and I were busy in VA Beach, completing two general contracting jobs elicited from former customers who’ve previously seen David’s skills in action. Although I worked with David as he completely rebuilt a storm-ravaged home in FL, post-Hurricane Ian (see Building an ark is never easy but always worth it), I’m still amazed at his ingenuity and ability to adapt. I’m thoroughly convinced that there’s nothing David can’t repair, replace, and restore.  

David’s re-screening job, before any work was done.

The first of David’s jobs was to re-screen a massive 26-by-20-foot screen porch and fix its wooden exit doors that wouldn’t shut. His second project was to rip out concrete paving stones and create a new 14-foot artistic patio with a stone firepit centerpiece on another job site. Both contracts proved to be labor-intensive, with unique challenges to overcome.   

While my help is mostly rudimentary, I enjoy assisting in whatever capacity the situation allows. I often tell people that God prepared me my whole life for working with David. I’m not afraid of manual labor and love learning new skills. Knowing I can help David as he completes these jobs is incredibly satisfying – and consistently adventurous. I never know what will happen next.

Such was the case when we began David’s porch project. Early into our labors, I noticed the gentle squawks of baby birds that seemed to be emanating from inside the enclosed area. I couldn’t determine where the source of the sound was coming from and didn’t dare look around too much.

Imagine my surprise when one of the homeowners, Jocelyn, later pointed out the unique bird nest built inside an empty cardboard box on her porch. I’d seen the momma nut thatcher earlier as she flew inside the screened area through the open back doors that wouldn’t close properly. I had even snatched a picture of this beautiful, tiny bird while helping her escape the enclosure. I remember thinking she’d entered the porch by accident. She hadn’t. After learning of her babies, I began watching her and her husband visit the nest every 10 minutes or so, bringing bugs and who knows what else to their hungry nestlings.   

As our job crept into the second week with an add-on project of creating a side exit door, wooden steps, and a small concrete pad, I began wondering how we could ensure that the nestlings and their parents would still be able to reach one another once the porch was again enclosed.

“You may need to keep the back doors open when we’re done,” I advised Jocelyn one day. “That way, the parents can still enter, and the babies can get out.” As a mother herself, Jocelyn agreed and said she’d thought of the same thing.   

David begins building new steps, a doorframe, and a concrete pad on our first job.

Day after day, David continued to work. Still, the babies didn’t seem anywhere near the fledgling stage.   

The afternoon before David and I were to complete the job and return to GA, we were surprised to learn that all three nestlings had not only all fledged but had also wholly vacated their nest.   

“God’s timing is so perfect,” I exclaimed after hearing the news.  

“So true,” agreed Jocelyn. “God is awesome.”   

Sharing a smile atop our ladders, David and I stapled new screen material onto freshly painted porch frames.

And yet, how often do we doubt our Heavenly Father’s unique understanding of what’s needed in our lives? Rather than trusting God, we plead and petition for what we want – restored health, a new job, a home, or even love – without considering our Lord’s timing. We’re such impatient people. Between instant messaging, microwave meals, and streaming services, there’s not much we have to wait for anymore.   

I remember learning patience growing up. For example, I distinctly recall the anticipation of receiving our annual Sears Christmas catalog in the mail when I was between six to ten years of age. As I salivated over the pages, dreaming of all the ways my new toys would enhance my life, I loved the excitement of circling everything I wanted. While I seldom received anything from the catalog, it was still fun to see what each festively wrapped package would reveal on Christmas morning – and I was never disappointed.   

Completed porch project with new steps, door, and concrete pad.

Fast forward a decade, and I can still recall feeling like my senior year in high school would never arrive – until it did. And then, after daydreaming about how exciting it would be to walk down the aisle to Pomp and Circumstance, the ceremony passed in a heartbeat.   

Waiting until I was 21 to get my driver’s license offered another unique exercise in my patience training. I never took Driver’s Ed in high school and had to wait until I had a car I could drive before even attempting to pass the test. What a feeling of triumph when I ultimately held my first license in my hand!  

I could say the same about my first car and apartment. I didn’t have any of those things until I ventured out alone after my second abusive marriage. I remember the thrill of having my own refrigerator – with all the foods I wanted, not what someone else insisted we have. Nothing compared to that simple joy. It took me months to afford an actual store-bought mattress and boxspring set rather than the wafer-thin, uncomfortable Walmart futon I’d been sleeping on. The gratification I felt from this new acquisition was profound.

Inevitably, trading my futon for a Lazyboy sofa brought intense satisfaction, as was purchasing my first home – bought with my painstakingly restored credit and frugally saved money. It took years of saving and earning my way to such moments of triumph and satisfaction – all with God’s help. I remember dancing around the house with my arms raised in praise after signing my life away on my new 30-page home loan. I couldn’t stop thanking God for bringing me to that moment.

David begins his patio job by removing the previous concrete pavers.

But the grandest reward to a lifetime of learned forbearance was ultimately receiving a gift so undeserved yet undeniable as the incalculable love of my irreplaceable husband, David. I remember my innocent dreams of finding my soulmate when I was younger. To think I once believed I could earn love from men who knew nothing of God is ludicrous to me now. Disappointment and heartache soon proved that notion was nonsensical. No matter how hard I hoped it would, such a result would never materialize. 

I’m always happy to help however I can – even hauling concrete pavers.

I had long ago given up ever finding God’s perfect love personified in a man – so I gave up looking. I was content to be alone, serving my Savior however I could, living for the day when He’d call me home to my place in Glory. I wasn’t interested in looking for a compatible spouse on Earth. I truly believed that such a thing could never exist. After all, that’s what I’d consistently learned and lived.   

But then God’s perfect timing put my soulmate and me together in the most unlikely circumstances – sweating our guts out while helping hurricane victims in FL. Neither of us was looking for anything other than the exultation of serving our Savior during that trip.   

Still, as David tells me, he looked heavenward when I first offered to share my lunch with him on day one of our combined disaster relief work. “Is she the one, God?” David questioned.   

“Be patient,” a still, small voice seemed to whisper to David in return. Thank goodness he listened.   

Midway through the new patio and firepit job, David stands behind his artistic creation.

And here we are today. I’m still in awe of our Savior’s timing. Even when both David and I had given up on love, even though we accepted that we might never receive genuine human tenderness here on Earth, God gave us both the same – in abundance. Our Heavenly Father’s grace, provision, and generosity are unfathomable.   

And so, I ask you to be patient, beloved. Your Heavenly Father knows what’s best for you no matter what you’re hoping, praying, and beseeching God for.  

“For My thoughts are not your thoughts, nor are your ways My ways,” says the Lord. “For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are My ways higher than your ways, And My thoughts than your thoughts.” (Isaiah 55: 8-9)  

Our completed patio paver and firepit job turned out to be a work of art.

In God’s perfect timing, fledglings will fly, hearts will mend, and all things will be restored. Our Savior is our “Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.” (Isaiah 9:6)   

Nothing is impossible with Christ – in His perfect timing. 

It’s always been you

It’s always been you

When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze. (Isaiah 43:2)

I woke up a few days ago with Phil Wickham’s “It’s always been you” blasting in my head. It’s been a while since God placed a song in my mind during my waking hours. But there it was, reverberating on loop in full, high-definition replay.

God gave David and me a beautiful day to enjoy the beach together on St. Simons Island, GA.

After sharing with David how the composition affected my thoughts, he asked me to pull up the song on my phone so he could hear the lyrics again. We added this beautiful ballad to our wedding reception playlist and often listen to it – and the rest of our reception music – as we eat dinner most nights.

As often as I’ve heard it, lying in bed next to my soulmate, wrapped up in his arms, I realized anew how great our love is. Caught up in the magnitude of the emotion, I couldn’t stop the tears streaming down my face.

As the song finished, David said aloud, “Why so long?”

I instantly knew what he meant as we both bemoan the time it took for God to unite us. We experienced so much heartache while we waited. Many mistakes were made, and long, lonely nights were spent apart as we sought one another – never finding each other until that fated day last October.

Seeing my tears, David whispered into my hair, “No more tears. We have each other now, and that’s all that matters.”

Still caught in the emotion, I responded, “It’s always been you, David. My truest love has always been you. My best friend has always been you. The love of my life has always been you.”

David and I visited the sites in Savannah, GA on Memorial Day.

Even as I uttered the words, an even stronger emotion hit me.

Even beyond David’s, my greatest love has always been God’s. My Heavenly Father was with me through every fire. When the waters rose over my head, and I wasn’t sure if I could go on, Jesus was always ready to pull me out of the waves and hold my head above water.

And when I needed someone to break down all the fortresses I built around my heart to protect it, God used David to do so.  

David and I were created for one another. I know that’s true with every fiber of my being. Our Heavenly Father fashioned each of us in our mother’s wombs to one day find, rescue, and love each other deeply for the rest of our days.

And while we were waiting to find each other, God kept us close to His heart.

The love that David and I share is so tangible that a passer-by took this photo and shared it with us as we basked in God’s glorious sunset over the Chesapeake Bay in VA Beach.

Your Heavenly Father will do the same for you, too, beloved. He’s always there – waiting to help, heal, and hold you – no matter what you’re going through. Never give up – no matter how dark the day seems. The night may be cold and dark, but hope comes in the morning with God’s perfect light.

It’s always been You, Lord Jesus. Thank you for loving me. Thank you for finding me. Thank you for rescuing me from the fire.

And thank You, God, for David – Your love with skin on it. It’s always been You.  

The only “C” word that matters is Christ

The only “C” word that matters is Christ

They do not fear bad news; they confidently trust the Lord to care for them. (Psalm 112:7) 

Life is a book in volumes three – 
The past, the present, and the yet-to-be. 
The past is written and laid away, 
The present we’re writing every day, 
And the last and best of volumes three 
Is locked from sight – God keeps the key. 

– Author unknown

As a self-proclaimed optimist, I work hard to always see the good in everything– even when things are at their worst. Sometimes, I can do so easily. At other times, maintaining that mindset takes a bit more conscious effort – and a whole lot of prayer.   

If you follow my blog at all, you know that God brought me my soulmate, David, in culmination of a lifetime of surrender to my Savior. Despite my fears and trepidation, I heeded my heavenly Father’s call and traveled to FL to help Samaritan’s Purse with disaster relief, post-Hurricane Ian. While serving – in a completely unexpected act of grace and provision from my Heavenly Father – God revealed His plans to provide me with a godly husband.   

David holds my heart. He is the blood that flows through my veins, and I can’t imagine life without him. David is my life’s greatest gift and an incomparable blessing from God.   

One month and one day after we were married, David had an MRI scan of his prostate at his doctor’s recommendation. Eight days later, the results showed a high probability of cancer. It would take nearly four weeks before we could see a urologist to fully interpret the findings.   

In the interim, my head was filled with a gamut of emotions. A sense of surreality is what hit me first. There’s no way this could be happening, I thought. I waited my whole life to find David. I couldn’t lose him now.   

“This is a love story,” I told him. “And it’s not going to be a tragedy.”   

The reality is that David lost his mother to cancer. She was only 52. My grandmother also died in her early 50s from the same disease that claimed my grandfather.   

And yet, we also have good stories in both of our families. My mother is a cancer survivor – as is one of David’s older brothers, who battled a rare form of leukemia through an experimental treatment that saw him cancer-free within a few weeks of treatment. Despite another bout of lung cancer, he remains healthy today.   

Still, of all the C-words one might want to hear and celebrate in a marriage, cancer is not one of them – neither are calamity, chaos, or cruelty.   

But what about courage, compassion, and cheerfulness? Aren’t those all words David and I celebrate every day? Hasn’t God given us an abundance of blessings? Aren’t our cups already overflowing with joy, laughter, and love, love, love? Indisputably!   

We will be strong, no matter what. I know that without reservation. We will fight this thing with every ounce of our combined strength – and God’s.   

And so we’ve surrounded ourselves with prayer.  

David and I are both warriors. We’ve lived through personal battles that might have broken others. It’s true that we still bear the scars of those wars – but only so we can share with others how God brought us through the valleys with His mighty hand.   

So it is with this battle. “God is using this to further strengthen our testimonies,” I told David.   

“I have more work to do for Him,” David agreed.

We will not let this challenge defeat us. From the first day we heard the news about David’s health, we’ve earnestly prayed that God would heal David’s body from the inside out. We know in our hearts that He is.   

Our God made the universe (Genesis 1:1-2:3). He parted the Red Sea so the Israelites could walk through on dry land (Exodus 13:17-14:31). He brought dry bones back to life (Ezekiel 37:1-14). And He brought two formerly forsaken people together – destined for one another since birth – through a disaster relief ministry and a forgotten lunch (The David and Sara Saga, parts 1-3). There is no way that our story is anywhere near being over.   

God affirmed our faith two weeks ago when we met with David’s urologist. At the doctor’s request, we scheduled a biopsy for mid-July to confirm what we already know in our hearts: the Great Physician is completely healing David. That is our earnest prayer, and we believe it with all our hearts. David’s doctor also believes we caught whatever this is early. He said his concern level was “low,” which only made us raise our hands and cry, “Yay, God,” as we walked away from the doctor’s office.   

As I initially wrote that statement affirming my faith while sitting on our porch, the skies cleared, and the sun came out from behind where David sat lounging across from me, illuminating his frame. After a week of grey skies and three solid days of cold, rainy conditions, the sun’s presence was profound. I could only smile as I snapped David’s photo. A minute earlier, the skies were overcast. A few moments later, they began blazing with light and promise.

So it is with God’s presence in our lives. There is no fear, no challenge, no prognosis too big for our Heavenly Father to overcome. We speak conquest over this challenge. Our combined service for our Savior has only just begun.

And so, I confidently proclaim that the only “C” word that ever matters is Christ. This battle – like all the others we’ve ever faced – belongs to the Lord. And in Him, we will always have eternal victory.  

What I loved about you today – The David and Sara Saga, Part 4

What I loved about you today – The David and Sara Saga, Part 4

Early on in our marriage, I began the daily practice of telling David at least one thing he did to capture my heart anew each day. I wish I had written down all my observations, as I would have amassed quite a volume of beautiful memories by now.

You see, there is always more than one thing that endears my husband to me. It’s the countless little things he does that make him so incredible. I know David delights in hearing my observations as much as I enjoy affirming him with the same. As I told him in my wedding vows, I will always be his greatest encourager.

“What I loved about you today,” I told him one evening, “is that you were so excited to write ‘married’ on your dental forms and list me as your emergency contact.”

“I loved it when you held me in the parking lot at Walmart before I got into the car,” I detailed on another occasion. “It didn’t matter who was around or watching us. It was like it was just you and me in the world.”

David’s egret photo taken in Islamorada, FL. David gifted a framed copy of the same to one of his clients for her home.

More than just the romantic part of our relationship, I also comment about things David does that impress me. Whenever we’ve visited his former clients in VA Beach, it amazes me to hear their stories of his great skill in completing projects in their homes. Whether it was witnessing with my own eyes a few of the additions David built on several houses or glimpsing one of his framed wildlife photos on a wall in a former client’s home, I’m incredibly proud of all the skills David possesses.

David told me a while ago how much he appreciated my observations before ever proposing to me. He once said that while he knew his clients respected his abilities, he never heard such affirmations from anyone else. How sad, I thought, but I completely understand. You see, I, too, was absent such positivity and praise in any of my past relationships. It’s impossible to quantify the true worth of encouragement.

David an I sitting atop the peak of his roof in the middle of our re-shingling job.

Nor can we ever say “I love you” enough to those we cherish. One of my dear friends told me her boyfriend recently verbalized his opposition to uttering those three precious words too often. What on earth would ever possess someone to say such a thing, I thought. You can never say ‘I love you’ too much. I later told her she needed to tell him he needs to figure out what love is if he truly feels that way.

Our Heavenly Father first demonstrated His love for us by sending His Son into the world to die for our sins. John 15: 13 reminds us, “Greater love has no one than this: to lay down in one’s life for one’s friends.” How much more should we demonstrate our love for our spouses or those we claim to care about than by telling them how much we value their presence in our lives? Saying “I love you” is one thing. Each of us should show our loved ones their merit by helping, supporting, listening to, and encouraging them every day.

David smiles as he nears the final peak and the end of our roof work.

David and I are committed to exhibiting love to one another at every opportunity for the rest of our lives. We’ve spent far too long apart and have been too beaten up by the world not to cherish the treasure we’ve found in one another. While some of our friends are skeptical about our lingering love affair – giving us “another week” or “until our first fight” (for the record, we’ve had more than one and hated every moment of them, by the way) – we know that God has given us a unique form of love that will never die or grow cold. We are tied together with Christ at our center. As much as we love Christ, we also love one another.

Ephesians 5: 28-29 gives this direction to men: “…Husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church.” 

After discovering how much I love using a nail gun, I learned that shingling may be labor intensive but it’s also super fun.

While many people are uncomfortable with the Biblical direction to wives that precedes Paul’s guidance to husbands, we must take the time to understand it. Ephesians 5: 22 says, “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.”

Submission here does not mean subservience. As Focus on the Family explains Paul’s passage, “When a husband submits to the Lord, leading his wife with a servant’s heart and nurturing her God-given talents, she can confidently submit to him — lean on him and trust his covering. That will always be relevant…The relationship isn’t of master to servant; it’s of lover and beloved.”

David and I share a moment of joy while reclining on his former home’s newly shingled roof.

I couldn’t have defined that statement any better. As Solomon’s wife exclaimed in the Song of Songs (chapter 6:3), “I am my beloved’s, and my beloved is mine.”

And so, I will continue to tell David what I love about him daily, affirming my beloved and assuring him of my continual affection. Whether it was the evening when we were both sang together on his roof while re-shingling it when our song – “Perfectly Loved” – played on our streaming service – or whether it’s how much I love seeing the joy on his face when I run to hug and kiss him whenever he walks into a room, every moment we have together is precious and should be celebrated. 

How much more love would there be in the world if we all followed this simple practice of affirming one another? 

Never doubt the power of love. It can move mountains. It can obliterate walls. And it can bring you your soulmate – and keep him or her filled with joy and contentment – all through the simple use of words and actions that remind your loved one of their worth. We are to follow Christ’s example, after all, aren’t we?

Jesus loved us first. May we always be ready and willing to share His love and ours with the world – especially to those we share our lives with.

David and Sara-isms – The David and Sara Saga, Part 3

David and Sara-isms – The David and Sara Saga, Part 3

One of the things I appreciate most about my relationship with David is that we both speak the same love language. Dr. Gary Chapman may have written books on the subject, but David and I will never need to read them. The ten-mile-long trail of text messages and emails we sent to one another long before we declared our love was constantly filled with words of affirmation – one of Dr. Chapman’s five love languages – as are all our daily conversations. David and I provide positivity and encouragement to one another as easily as we breathe air.

David and I rejoiced at our first Easter Sunday together.

As silly as it may sound, even beyond our constant encouragements, as mutual writers, we developed our own phrases and way of speaking soon after we declared our love. We derived so much pleasure from our sayings that David suggested we write a few to share with our wedding guests.

And so, the famous “David and Sara-isms” document was born.

At every banquet table, the following explanations were shared:

David and Sara-isms

Do you speak David and Sara’s Love Language? Let’s find out! Here’s a small sampling of what you might hear them saying to each other: 

  • “Is this for real?” – Translation? This phrase is used constantly when David and Sara think about everything God has done to bring them together. 
  • “A thousand million, billion, KA-zillion times ‘YES!’” – Translation? This is how Sara answered David when he proposed to her. Use this phrase when you want people to understand that you really mean what you’re saying. We’re not sure these are real numbers, but you can pretend they are and impress whoever you’re talking to. 
  • “It’s HUGGLE time!” – Translation? David uses this phrase when he wants to hug and snuggle with Sara. Huggling is definitely a happy pastime, so give it a try!  
  • “DOUBLE awesome!” – Translation? When David first told Sara that she’s awesome, she replied that he’s awesome, too. David asked Sara, “If you’re awesome and I’m awesome, what are we together?” Sara replied, “We are DOUBLE awesome!” The phrase stuck! You can also use it to explain that something is beyond amazing. It’s “DOUBLE awesome!”
  • “Awesome times INFINITY!” – Translation? When something is beyond awesome, it’s “Awesome times INFINITY,” and nothing can top that!
  • “Together forever, wherever!” Translation? David and Sara are inseparable. Make sure you use this phrase carefully, as it indicates a perpetual state of togetherness. 
  • “I love you! I love you! I love you!” – Translation? This expression describes a triune bond of love that starts with Christ at the center. David and Sara seldom issue a single “I love you.” It’s more commonly heard in a chorus of three declarations of love. “A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” (Ecclesiastes 4:12).

As we cleaned up the reception hall after our wedding, I was surprised to see that none of the David and Sara-ism documents we created were left behind. We later learned that all were taken by our wedding guests as keepsakes of our event. In fact, one of David’s brothers told us that he keeps the document on top of his bureau, where he can read and enjoy it daily. Apparently, we’re not the only ones who value our choice to use words of positivity and love to communicate.

What a joy to have someone to attend special events with! David and I recently shared a light lunch at a friend’s garden party.

Why is affirmation so rare, I wonder? I often hear from my work teammates that my uplifting words are different from what they hear from others. “Everything is always a steady push to get things done,” one of my colleagues commented. “But you always take the time to be uplifting and encouraging. I greatly enjoy interacting with you.” 

Another person once told me he couldn’t understand how I could always be so happy. As I’ve told countless others since, “It’s not me. It’s God you see in me.” 

How can we make a difference if we, as Christians, are no different than the world around us? If we constantly moan, whine, and complain, what incentive is there for anyone to want what we have? We’ve been given the gift of eternal life and love from our Heavenly Father. How can we not share His love gift with others? By demonstrating Christ’s love to the world, we are being His hands and feet through everything we touch, wherever we go, with whoever we encounter.

Christians should always be affirming – loving one another wholeheartedly. It’s not only an excellent way to keep our spouses happy, but it also makes the world a more beautiful and joyful place for everyone to exist in. 

Every moment David and I share is a huge blessing.

Why not adopt David’s and my love language and incorporate encouragement into your daily existence? Don’t just tell someone they did a good job. Uplift those around you by letting them know they are double awesome, or even awesome times infinity, if you really want to knock their socks off. 

And when you want to uplift your spouse or friends, don’t hesitate to triple your affection for even greater significance. After all, who wouldn’t want to hear the trilogy “I love you! I love you! I love you!”?

With just a little practice, you, too, can add David and Sara-speak into your everyday conversations. Just add love to everything you do, and you’ll always be appreciated.

And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.” (1 Corinthians 13:13)