For Christmas this year, David and I were privileged to enjoy a free stay at an oceanfront condo in the FL Keys. No. We didn’t win the Publisher’s Clearinghouse Sweepstakes. Our “vacation” was courtesy of one of David’s lifelong friends, Joe D’Angelo, whose winter home is the one we were fortunate to occupy while he was away for the holidays. Talk about Christmas in Paradise. We found it!
David first met Joe when he was around five or 6-years-old after his family moved from Lakewood, NY, to Orchard Park, NY. As a young adult, Joe reached out to David regarding David’s self-employment experience since Joe was considering leaving the restaurant industry. Joe took David’s advice and was fortunate enough to acquire an existing glass installation business, which he ultimately grew into a lucrative venture. Joe and his wife Mary retired to Tavernier, FL – a beautiful community just north of Islamorada, in the Upper Keys. While the two of them were visiting their children and grandchildren for the holidays, David and I basked in the beauty of their oceanfront view from the sixth floor of Joe’s condo.
While there, David delighted in taking me to places he remembered from his former stays in Islamorada. Between 2001 and 2009, David was fortunate to work in what was then the former Hampton Inn – partially owned and operated by his decades-long friend, Dennis. David’s primary, annual, off-season task was to repaint all the hotel’s guest rooms, common areas, and exterior. While working on the property, David and his helper, Dexter, were provided free lodging at the hotel.
Although it was dark after our 8-hour drive to the Keys, David was eager to revisit Dennis’ former hotel – now fully renovated and rebranded as the Amara Kay Resort. After a short drive to the site, we walked the property so David could photo-document the site’s changes for Dennis – all the while elaborating upon his fond memories to me.
“It’s beautiful,” was my constant refrain as David walked me through the lobby to the oceanfront view on the back grounds. Even in the dark, I was amazed at the tropical outdoor seating, majestic palms, fire pits, and tiki torches adorning the property. The place was positively magical.
After walking along the grounds, David and I strolled to the hotel’s pier, next to the same tiki bar that David remembered from his past. Despite the dramatic changes to the property, other features remained the same. I could hardly imagine the privilege of a two-and-a-half-month-long stay in such a resort. What a privilege!
As the two of us sat down on a waterfront lounge chair to contemplate the same, we looked up at the night sky and thanked God for the blessing of being there together.
“I used to sit here at night and look out at the water,” David confessed. “I was glad I had Zoley (David’s dog), but I’d always ask God, ‘Where is she?'” Emotional at the memory, David continued, “And now you’re here! I can hardly believe you’re finally here!”
More wondrous than a complimentary stay in the Keys, more satisfying than the warmth of the FL sunshine, more beautiful than the pristine waters we transcended in borrowed kayaks, and more awe-inspiring than the cries of the ospreys that glided over the ocean waters is our God. One year ago, I was in CO visiting my family for Christmas, fretting over how I’d share the news of my engagement to my soulmate. At the time, I could never have imagined where I’d be 365 days later, let alone how joyful my life would be now that I’m married to David.
And yet, here I am, continually marveling at the incredulity of it all. I’ll never again ask for another gift in my lifetime. I already have it all. Apart from my salvation, the most incomparable gift I’ve ever received was the love of a man named David. After all, unequivocal love is beyond description. It’s all I ever wanted, never thought I’d obtain, and so much more than I could ever have imagined it would be.
From a baby in a manger to a resurrected King, God demonstrated His love to us by humbling Himself to take on human flesh for the sole purpose of saving our souls so we could spend eternity with Him in heaven. The greatest gift is love, and it’s always there for all of us to unwrap, accept, and savor. Nothing on earth is as profound as our Heavenly Father’s love. I’m even more blessed to have found that same love with skin on it, wrapped up in the unconditional affection of my David. I can never thank God enough for the same.
The greatest gift is love. Grab it. Savor it. Share it. After all, there is nothing more remarkable in the universe than love.
In my last blog, I talked about how David knocked down my walls of protection by sending me the Rachel Lampa song, “Perfectly Loved,” followed by his testimony of how God broke through to him with His own love for David’s soul. Through several back-and-forth emails, David and I verbalized our lifelong pursuit of one another.
As David explained, “I’ve been praying to meet someone the way we did, in a place where God was. I wanted to feel the beat that skipped in my heart when I met her. I wanted my breath to be taken away by her beauty, intelligence, compassion, love for others, and willingness to serve. I wanted someone where I would be safe to express my love of God, where it would grow and become stronger. I wanted to find that someone who understood and believed those same things, and we would have a love built on the strength of our faith in Jesus and all that He teaches us.”
Writing back, I asked, “Did your heart really skip a beat when you met me? Did I truly take your breath away with who I am? Can that be real?”
“I was called to Florida, David,” I explained, “God called me just as He called you. He asked us to give up a few days of our lives in utter abandon to His ministry, and we heeded His call. I had no idea what to expect, but it was beyond my wildest expectations. It still is. His gifts for me are still coming – from one single act of wholehearted commitment.”
Over the next few days, David set into motion an elaborate plan to further demolish my protective walls by supplying me with tangible evidence of his love. It all began with David’s message that he had arranged for one of his VA Beach friends to ship me something from his home via special delivery. This much is true. David did have a friend mail a tile he had painted years ago. The slate was emblazoned with a gold and red heart along with the words, “Healing heart – Love Heals.”
What David didn’t reveal was that the shipment was coming to him in FL so he could hand-deliver it to me. Over the next few days, David unabashedly convinced me that I needed to be home to sign for the package – presumably scheduled to arrive on December 1st and later delayed until December 2nd.
Behind the scenes, David wasn’t yet at a place in FL where he could easily leave his restoration work. After reaching a breakaway point, he grabbed his kitty, Bo, and set out on an 8-hour journey to my home – all the while sending me text updates regarding the estimated arrival time of my “package.” I never expected anything but a mysterious gift sent with love.
On Friday, December 2nd, 2022, I woke to the following beautiful email from David:
“Good morning, Dear Sara,
You are the Angel that holds My Heart!!!!
What a beautiful and memorable day this is going to be! God has blessed us with such a wonderful beginning, and today will add to our precious Love story! What will come to your door today truly has been a lifetime in the making. God has shaped and molded this gift to be the perfect fit into your life, and I’m so excited to be able to share it with you now and forever! I know you want me to be there, and I will be – in your heart as you are in mine.
I know that my life with you has happened because we both gave our lives up to God to be in his service and allow the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts.
What I’m sending you, My Love, is My Heart. It’s my dedication, devotion, and determination to show you how much I love you and want to be with you! I’m so happy to know what I’m giving you will be in a safe place that you can share with others when they come into your home.
I know we will have a lot to say to each other this evening, and I can’t wait to hear the sound of your voice!
With God’s Love and mine💞 – David”
To David’s mailing, I sent the following response:
“Dear David,
The giving of one’s heart is a sacred offering and one that I would never give or take lightly. The fact that you’ve given me yours is profoundly precious to me. Please know that I promise to hold your heart protectively as I understand its tremendous value.
I can’t even imagine what you could possibly be sending me today, but I feel privileged to receive whatever you want to give. The gift of oneself demonstrates no greater love, and I am eternally grateful to God for sending me a man who understands that.
I’ve never known a love such as yours before, David. It’s incredulous to me that such a thing can exist – that what I’ve hoped and prayed for my entire life could actually be living on this earth. I’d long ago given up the idea that someone like you could ever find and love someone like me. Only the hand of God could have brought us together for such a time as this.
Thank you for loving me, David. Thank you for the gift of your heart and for your steadfast determination to make me believe in its veracity.
With our Savior’s love and mine – Sara”
Throughout the day, David gave me periodic updates on the arrival of my package.
Per David, “I’ve got an update for delivery moved to between 7:00 and 9:00. I was able to get the signature requirement removed, so no worries.”
As time progressed, I became more and more excited about whatever David was sending me. As the 9:00 pm hour rolled in, I told David I still hadn’t seen anything.
“It says it’s still out for delivery,” David told me. “That driver sure is working late!”
“Agreed,” I replied. “I’ve never had such a late delivery before! I feel sorry for the driver! I wonder if they’ll just take it back and bring it tomorrow now.”
“Patience love,” came David’s response. “Delivered by 9:20!”
By 9:15, with still no sign of the “package,” I decided I should have a tip ready for the driver. Pulling a five-dollar bill from my wallet, I put the money in my pocket and moved to the door to look out.
Peering through the semi-sheer drapes covering the sidelights at my front door, I noted the headlights that entered my driveway at precisely 9:20 pm. When a car door shut, I looked again and could just make out a figure walking to my door that didn’t appear to be wearing a uniform.
It was at that moment that I felt a twinge of concern. There I was, a single woman, preparing to open the door late at night to a stranger who may or may not have been in uniform. “Maybe this isn’t the best idea,” I thought.
But then the doorbell rang.
David will tell you that he remembers watching his finger move in slow motion to the doorbell, knowing full well that he was preparing to change our lives forever with that single action.
As for me, I will never forget the abject shock I felt when I opened the door to find David standing on my welcome mat with a massive smile on his face.
Barely comprehending what I was seeing, I cried out, “Wait. What?!? David! How on earth can you be here?” In my utter dismay, I literally shut the door on him.
Realizing what I had done, I opened the door again, grabbed ahold of David, and dragged him inside – repeating over and over, “I can’t believe it! How can you be here?”
As David laughed, I paced back and forth – periodically looking at David while repeating, “I just need a minute. You don’t understand. I can’t believe it!”
At some point during my pacing, David finally grabbed me and pulled me into his embrace.
“I had to come,” he said. “I love you. I needed to tell you that, in-person, before you came to Florida.”
While I wasn’t prepared to tell David I loved him yet, I held onto him, clinging to the first person on earth who ever made me feel valued. His single act of driving to see me had completely validated his proclamations of love.
“You don’t understand,” I repeated, genuinely overwhelmed at the incredulity of his arrival. “No one has ever done anything like this for me before. I just can’t believe you’re here! How long did it take you to get here?”
“Eight hours,” David confirmed. “It was worth every mile to see your face.”
Overwhelmed by the love David had demonstrated to me, I could barely stop the tears streaming down my face. “You don’t understand. You just don’t understand,” I kept saying.
Over the next few hours, I did my best to explain to David how his act of unselfish love had touched my soul deeper than anything he could have ever said to me.
For as long as I can remember, I have always felt unworthy. I’d been led to believe that my value was always tied to the tangible: how I looked, what I could do, and who I was compared to the rest of the world. I always fell short. I could never be pretty enough, smart enough, or anything else the world believed held value. This concept had been my truth throughout my broken marriages. I was never enough for anyone to love or consider worthy of their kindness, let alone their affection.
Worse yet, I had been repeatedly told that the vision I held in my heart of what love really is was unrealistic. “No one can love like you think they can,” was a frequent refrain. “That’s only in movies and fairy tales.”
And so that statement became my truth. The love depicted in movies was just make-believe. Books with happy endings were unrealistic. No one, not anyone on earth, could love me unselfishly, wholeheartedly – the way I wanted to be loved – without asking anything in return. No one, that is, until David.
In David, I have found the mirror image of my love for him, the kind of love God has for us all. Every day, David and I hug, laugh, kiss, and thank our Heavenly Father for the beautiful, merciful, undeserving, steadfast, unequivocal, unquenchable love we have for one another. We hold onto each other at every opportunity, thanking God for the gift of finding such love on earth. At every meal, our first mention in our prayers – while we’re holding on to one another, I might add – is to thank our Creator for the gift of love He’s established between us.
“Thank you, God, for your love,” I pray before every meal. “Thank you for tying David and I together with such an unbreakable bond, bound together with your presence that always surrounds us, for keeping us focused on you. We are so grateful. We can never thank you enough.”
God is the ultimate wall breaker and love maker. He is the one who was always with me, guiding David and me to the moment when we would meet, serve Him together in FL, and ultimately fall in love by seeing each other’s hearts for our Savior.
My whole life, I always knew my Creator loved me. That much has always been true. But it was only by surrendering my will to His and consistently praying for someone to love me like He did that I found my precious David. As it turns out, David was also seeking love like I was – someone to love like God does, with skin on it.
One year ago, yesterday, David proposed to me, and I immediately replied, “A million, trillion, ka-billion times, yes!” Today, as we are celebrating our 9-month wedding anniversary, I repeated the exact phrase over and over to him.
By the way, David still has the five-dollar tip I gave him as the rightful, hard-working delivery driver who came to my door on December 2nd, 2022.
That money pales in comparison to the gift of love we received from our Savior – both when we gave our hearts and lives to Him and when He gave us the long-held hope of genuine love here on earth. I can never thank God enough.
After all, only God could create such a love story from two seeking souls whose only desire was to serve their Creator.
Thanks to our Heavenly Father, we’re just getting started.
It’s normal for married couples to celebrate anniversaries such as the day they met and the day they wed. But two anniversaries in a love story as profound as David’s and mine don’t seem to be enough.
Instead, we celebrate our love with anniversaries all year long. In addition to the day we met (October 12th) and our wedding anniversary (March 12th), the 12th of each month is another important acknowledgement of God’s grace in bringing our two hearts together. December 11th is also important to us as it’s the day David proposed to me. So, too, December 12th is remembered as the two-month anniversary of the day we met, as well as the day we served with Samaritan’s Purse together as an engaged couple. December 2nd is another important date in our lives that will forever mark the moment my walls of protection were utterly obliterated by love.
The tale begins on November 28th – what I like to call our “Next Chapter Day,” which I’m now officially naming as another anniversary.
On November 27th, I gave my sweet kitty, Rocky, back to God – a story I wrote about in my blog entitled, “Not the Father’s will that any of these should perish.” I had purposely chosen not to tell David about this event as I knew he was working hard rebuilding Herm and Nancy’s Ft. Myers home, which had been devastated by Hurricane Ian. I didn’t want to distract him from that mission with my pain.
As it turned out, David was hurt by my choice not to share this life event with him. After a few brief back-to-back text messages establishing the same, David sent me a link to the Rachel Lampa song, “Perfectly Loved,” which affected me profoundly.
Beyond our miles-long text messages in those first few months of our relationship, David and I wrote beautiful love letters via email. Wanting to capture the profound way David’s song-send had deeply moved me emotionally, on November 28th, I emailed him the following impassioned response:
“Dear David,
I had planned to send you a completely different message this evening about being a wounded animal – something that needs time and total commitment to earn trust. I know all about such things by being both the one earning the trust and the one who trusts. It’s always worth the effort in the end.
But then you sent me that video. The lyrics of this song speak so deeply to my soul that I can’t stop listening to it.
David, God is the only one who has ever perfectly loved me. He’s the only one who’s never abandoned, abused, and rejected me. All I’ve ever wanted was to be perfectly loved. That’s all. I used to puzzle over why something that should be so simple is beyond comprehension. I love like that. Why can’t anyone else do the same?
They haven’t. Until perhaps now.
Can you perfectly love me? Can you truly want to know these, my innermost thoughts? Can you really want to know me and yet still love me – despite my flaws, scars, and fears of betrayal?
I have only one fear in life – believing that there may be perfect love only to discover that I was mistaken, yet again. I want to hold onto my belief that somewhere, love can be genuine and whole, that deep love, as the Bible tells me, covers a multitude of sins. (1 Peter 4:8)
I used to think that meant love excuses bad behavior, that I could WILL someone to love me, or that they’d change and do so. Nothing could be further from the truth. People don’t change. Either they love you, or they don’t.
I don’t want superficial love, David. I want perfect love – the kind that sticks with you when times get tough, that isn’t afraid to scale walls, walk 10,000 miles, or stand beside you when things get messy or you’re less than perfect.
‘Perfect love casts out fear.’ (1 John 4:18) I don’t want to fear that I’m bothering you. I don’t want to fear that I’ll tell you I love you only to have you change your mind and walk away. I don’t want to fear that what I hope for, that someone can love me as deeply and passionately as I know how to love, isn’t real – that only God can love like that. If that were true, how could God have given that capacity to love in me?
Am I the only person on Earth that gets it? Am I the only one who can love that deeply? Can you love like that, too, David? Can you love me like that? Can I finally give up always having to be strong and alone for being perfectly loved by someone who WANTS to be with me? Can you understand that I want nothing more in life than to love someone with my whole heart who I know loves me that way in return?
Show me that you are that person, David. I don’t need space. I’ve had a lifetime of being shunned. You can’t love me enough. I will never get tired of being loved. Show me that you love me like God loves me, and you will hold my heart forever.
I wish I could ask and tell you these things in person. I need to see your reaction – and you, mine. Until then, I will hold out hope that I may be perfectly loved someday.
Thank you for giving me hope in something I stopped believing in long ago. Thank you for giving me hope. Thank you for not giving up on me. If you do, I will never bother you again.
But if you don’t, if you will be the King David I know you to be – the man after God’s own heart – you may just find perfect love for yourself in return.
In His love, Sara”
In response, David sent me the following message:
“Dearest Sara, 😇💞💋
What you have written to me is heaven-sent! I will cherish this forever! This is what I’ve been searching for my entire life as well.
When God completely entered my soul, and I felt unconditional love for the first time, I understood what had been missing all along. It wasn’t there in my family. When I felt that love from God, and I knew he was talking to me and not over me, or around me, or through me, but directly to me, with compassion and understanding, encouragement, fearlessness, determination, honesty, humbleness, and STEADFAST DEVOTION, He was telling me these were the foundations of loving with an open heart.
I’ve been praying to meet someone the way we did, in a place where God was. I wanted to feel the beat that skipped in my heart when I met her. I wanted my breath to be taken away by her beauty, intelligence, compassion, love for others, and willingness to serve. I wanted someone where I would be safe to express my love of God, where it would grow and become stronger. I wanted to find that someone who understood and believed those same things, and we would have a Love built on the strength of our faith in Jesus and all that He teaches us.
As I got to know you during our deployment, I saw and felt ALL of these things in you. And I began to pray, Lord, is this the one? Is this the person who will have my back at all times, fight for me as much as I fight for her, who will support me in following the dream you have given me and encourage my creativity, will want to have a love between us as deep and as wide as is the universe you have created for us, someone who loves you with all her heart and wants to celebrate that love with me, someone that would wrap me in her arms of love and the pains and scars of my past would melt away forever – that she, Lord, would be the one I want to be with in eternity?
I know, with all my heart, Sara, YOU are her!! You are the Angel God has sent me, and I can barely see the screen right now though the tears of Joy streaming down my face. I thank God for the gift of you!
Scroll back through all of our messages to the beginning. My finger got tired of swiping; it took so long! We have a wonderful and beautiful connection! It’s only going to get stronger. With God at our center, we will be unbreakable. Set aside your fears, Dear One. I Will be your King David, and I will do everything in my power to honor that which has been given to me from God Our Father.
I U V. (Author’s note: This was David’s first not-so-cryptic way of telling me that he loved me without typing the words.) I guess that has been retired by now!
I love you so very much!!
With God’s Love
Your David💞”
Which prompted the following return message from me:
“Dearest David,
Last night, I told you to add being a stone mason to your resume. This morning, I believe you may also add ‘bulldozer driver’ to your repertoire. How did you manage to obliterate my protective walls with one mailing? The truth is, you’ve been chipping away at them for some time now, even while I clung to the rubble you knocked down for fear of losing its protection. I don’t want to do that anymore.
What you’ve written to me through your tears is the perfect embodiment of all I’ve ever asked for. Your words can be nothing less than heaven-sent. They’re what my soul has been seeking, praying for, and envisioning for as long as I can remember. If your love is as you’ve described below, there is NO more extraordinary gift I could ever receive other than that from my Savior.
Unintentionally, I gave you an assignment that seemed impossible to complete. I asked you if you could love me as Christ does. I wanted to know if you even understood the kind of love I’m talking about.
I now know that you do. You were able to detail extraordinarily how Christ filled your soul with His perfect love. My heart soured as I read your words.
You said Christ was ‘talking to [you] and not over [you], or around [you] or through [you], but directly to [you], with compassion and understanding, encouragement, fearlessness, determination, honesty, humbleness, and STEADFAST DEVOTION. He was telling [you] these were the foundations of Loving With an Open Heart.’
That IS how Christ loves, David. You’ve entirely captured what God-given love is. That IS how He loves us.
And that is how I love, as well. Perfect love is modeled after our Savior’s. He demonstrated His love for us by dying on the cross for our sins, by caring for us since before we were born, since before time began.
‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.’ (Jeremiah 29:11)
That love story is captured in God’s holy Word. Ours is encapsulated here – but more importantly, it’s in our hearts.
Did your heart really skip a beat when you met me? Did I truly take your breath away with who I am? Can that be real?
I was called to Florida, David. God called me just as He called you. He asked us to give up a few days of our lives in utter abandon to His ministry, and we heeded His call. I had no idea what to expect, but it was beyond my wildest expectations. It still is. His gifts for me are still coming – from one single act of wholehearted commitment.
You said you prayed for someone like me. You wanted to find someone who also wanted to serve, even as you hoped you’d find that person while you were serving.
I did the same. That’s ALWAYS been my prayer.
But before this trip that changed our lives, I didn’t have that idea in my head. My only thought was, ‘Use me, Lord.’
Even so, just as I shut my door to begin my drive to FL, that thought entered my head. ‘Maybe you’ll meet him there.’ It took me back as that notion was not in my brain at ALL. I was so excited just to go, even as I marveled at how it all came together. I could barely contain my excitement. Every step, every mile, brought me closer to the mission God had ordained me for, even before I was born.
It also brought us to each other. Without knowing it, the perfect love story was revealed and put into motion the day I left GA. How the angels must have rejoiced that day!! What had been waiting in the shadows was being orchestrated on the stage of our lives. One act, one line, one piece at a time, was coming together. That story is ours. It’s our God-given love story, and it’s better than any I could have ever imagined.
I told you that if you showed me that you loved me as God loves me, you would hold me in your heart forever. I’m not going to say anything else until I see you, but you’re in my heart, King David. I hold your heart as my greatest treasure in return.
In His love, Sara”
What happened next was that David put into motion a plan to demonstrate his love to me so elaborate that it completely obliterated my walls. It’s so beautiful, in fact, that I will share its story in a separate post.
For now, I end with a reminder that our God will break down every wall that holds us back from complete happiness and joy. All we have to do to find that jubilation on Earth is by surrendering our will to His. While I hadn’t yet found earthly love until God brought me David, the love of my Savior, Jesus Christ, was always with me. It carried, elevated, and sustained me throughout my life’s often perilous journey.
In Christ, there is always hope – the kind of hope that only our Creator can bring. As David’s and my earthly pastor in VA Beach, Dr. Don Solomon of Kings Grant Baptist Church, told us today, “Hope in worldly terms is simply wishful thinking. Hope in Biblical terms isn’t wishful. It’s faith, assurance, and security in Christ. It can withstand trials, fire, and despair, God’s hope gives us security through Christ.”
There is always hope, beloved. I’ve always felt secure in Christ. I soon discovered we can also have hope and security here on Earth. God walks before us, beside us, and with us. There is no better assurance than that we find in Christ. He is the ultimate wall breaker and love maker – every single day for all eternity.
After a great night’s sleep in our Ostia, Italy apartment, David and I were determined to restart our honeymoon on a rested and re-energized note on our second day in Rome. Before leaving for our day’s adventure, we enjoyed a leisurely brunch on the garden patio and thanked God for His outstanding provision. Although we left at 1:30 pm, we knew we had a more manageable schedule that day, so we weren’t worried about the time. Our goal was to travel into the ancient city to visit the Roman Colosseum and Forum, so we took our time walking back to the train station.
An hour and a half later, we exited our second train at the base of the ruins – and gaped at the sight of this massive marvel. After basking in its glory and taking lots of pictures, we learned that our purposely unhurried romp had, unfortunately, prevented us from any possible entry into the landmark. Tickets, we soon learned, were sold out for the day. I should have known better, but we had been too tired to check such things the day before.
While pondering our options, a gentleman we believed to be a tourist information worker advised us that we could still join a group traveling into the landmark at 5:30 pm. Even better, he agreed to show us where the group was meeting – promising that he had nothing to gain and only wanted to help. Unfortunately, we learned that wasn’t quite the truth.
Tickets to join this tour came at the steep price of 60 euros/person – a triple increase in the general admission cost. Neither David nor I were willing to pay such exorbitant fares, so we declined the offer and continued our journey – promising each other that we’d come back one day to see inside.
Undeterred by this setback to our day’s adventure, David and I passed the Constantine Arch and then moved over to the entrance of the Roman Forum – only to learn that tickets for the same must be purchased at the Colosseum – and that the Forum would be closing in 10 minutes.
Laughing off what could have been a massive disappointment, David and I decided to walk to the Circus Maximus and then around to the back of the Forum ourselves instead. We were in love, standing in the heart of Rome, and nothing could dampen our spirits. Even when the Circus turned out to be a small pile of ruins that one obviously couldn’t enter without paying to see, we didn’t mind.
With the Forum to our right, we continued along Roman streets until we eventually ascended to an area where we could look back on the Forum. In God’s perfect timing, the skies were now filled with a kaleidoscope of colors – turning the ruins into a brilliant masterpiece of man-made and God-ordained splendor. The spectacle was so unexpectedly grand that we felt privileged to see it this way rather than how we had initially planned.
David and I were blessed to see the Roman Forum at twilight from an unexpected walk that took us behind and above the ruins rather than amongst them.
After photographing the sights with their background of heavenly colors, we thanked God for bringing us to that place at just that moment. We couldn’t have designed it any better had we tried.
Passing the St. Peter-in-Chains church on the side of the Forum (which was also closed, of course), we next found ourselves back along the busy streets of Rome at precisely the moment when evening lights were turning on, and street performers were beginning their free evening concerts.
As the strains of “Bésame Mucho” wafted across the busy thoroughfare, I was filled with joy and excitement from our day. Grabbing David’s hands, we began dancing together on the sidewalk – as if we were the only two people in the world.
“What’s this song?” David asked as we danced. “I don’t know it.”
“Bésame Mucho,” I replied. “It means ‘Kiss me a lot,'” I explained, nestling into David’s shoulder as I savored the timeless moment.
Walking hand-in-hand back to the train station, we stopped often, listening to nighttime tour guides discuss the now-closed Forum from the street. As we languidly returned to the train station, both of us agreed that despite the obstacles that altered our plans over the past few days, we had a much better experience on our own – taking our time, stopping as often as we wanted to, viewing things that we hadn’t expected – making our own unique memories along the way.
Neither of us would change a thing about our expedition – both on our honeymoon and in our daily journey. It’s our committed practice to consistently praise God for His care, grace, and provision at every turn. Every difficulty we overcome brings us closer to each other – not just on this venture, but every day we’re together. We perpetually see our Creator’s hand on our lives and are so grateful for His omnipotent blessings.
Churches, challenges and COVID – Italian Honeymoon, Part 2
Travel opens doors of understanding, enhances one’s world vision, and expands the horizons of one’s mind. There is nothing else quite like it. Travel is also exhausting, exciting, and enriching in a way that few other things in life can ever be. Especially the way I travel – and now the way David and I travel together.
Since my first European exploit with my mom to Italy in 2012, I was determined to create travel immersion experiences like none other. What first began as a one-week excursion with an Italian-based tour group quickly developed into an annual two-week adventure where the two of us traveled from city to city – staying in local apartments, shopping in regional markets, cooking our own meals – all the while driving across the country and back again. While the planning for such events was an ordeal unto itself, we ended up with unique experiences that tour companies can never replicate.
Using this same theme as my guide, I began orchestrating David’s and my honeymoon after the second trip my mom and I took to Italy in 2015. The “Team Olson” travel itinerary follows:
Day 1 – Touchdown in Rome; move to Ostia along the Roman coast, where we would stay for three nights, and then travel by bus and two trains into Rome to visit the Pantheon, Trevi Fountain, and Spanish Steps
Day 2 – Journey by three trains into Rome to visit the Colosseum and Roman Forum
Day 3 – Travel by three trains to visit the Vatican Museums and St. Peter’s Basilica
Day 4 – Return to the Roman airport to retrieve a rental car for the next 11 days; drive 3+ hours to Assisi, where we would stay for four nights.
Day 5 – Visit Assisi; tour the Basilicas of San Francesco and Santa Clara
Day 6 – Visit Orvieto and Civita di Bagnoregio.
Day 7 – Visit the Basilica de Santa Maria degli Angeli; return to the historical region of Assisi to celebrate the Feast Day of San Francesco and witness the religious pageant from the lower to the upper basilica (on my birthday)
Day 8 – Leave Assisi; drive 1.5 hours to Siena; tour Siena; move to Certaldo for one night in an agriturismo apartment.
Day 9 – Leave Certaldo; drive 45 minutes to tour San Gimignano; drive 3+ hours to Cinque Terre, where we would stay for two nights.
Day 10 – Hike the cliffs of Cinque Terre National Park between Monterosso al Mare and Vernazza; take the train to visit the rest of the towns of Cinque Terre; swim in the Tyrrhenian Sea
Day 11 – Drive 3.5 hours to Impruneta, near Florence/Firenze, for our next 3-night stay; take the bus to Florence for the afternoon; tour the Galleria dell’Accademia; and walk the town to sightsee.
Day 12 – Take the bus to spend the day in Florence; visit the Palazzo Vecchio, Palazzo Medici Riccardi, Basilica San Lorenzo, the Duomo, the leather market, and Giardino di Boboli.
Day 13 – Bus to Florence to tour the Gallerie degli Uffizi, Santa Croce, and the Palazzo Pitti
Day 14 – Drive 4 hours to Focene for our final night’s stay; take three trains back into Rome to visit St. Peter’s Basilica
Day 15 – Move to the FCO airport in Rome to return our rental car, then travel back to Philadelphia and Jacksonville before heading home.
Altogether, we visited 15 cities during our 14-day journey to Italy – including the towns we stayed in overnight. If we were to combine all the steps we walked, miles we travailed, and total flights of stairs we climbed (Italy is incredibly hilly!), we end up with the following statistics:
172,657 steps
75.32 miles walked
394 floors ascended
29,819 calories burned
Needless to say, David and I were tired yet invigorated every single day of our journey. The things we saw, the encounters we had, and the beautiful love we shared along the way were unlike anything I’ve ever experienced before. While capturing every aspect of our trip would fill volumes, I will endeavor to share a few of the most exciting occurrences here – and there were plenty of thrilling incidents to detail!
Few plans proceed perfectly, and there’s so much more that remains to be orchestrated on the ground, even with the best-laid strategies. For example, on day one, with little sleep on our overnight flight, we landed in Rome at 9:00 am local time. Our bodies, of course, thought it was 3:00 am due to the time difference – a strange time to start such a venture. “You just have to push through it,” I told David.
After a boondoggle with Customs at the FCO airport that kept us waiting in line for an hour and a half, we needed to buy bus tickets to get to our first apartment in Ostia, along the western Roman coastline. Easier said than done. After walking inside and outside the airport, I stopped at a coffee shop on the exterior perimeter to inquire about tickets. I was finally able to purchase what I needed – despite no signs detailing the same and, of course, the perpetual language barrier.
After a long walk to another terminal, we found a stop for our bus and were soon on our half-hour journey to this remote town. Absent international data on my phone for GPS guidance, David and I used the Tom-Tom GPS unit I brought for our rental car to help guide us to our first apartment. From previous experience, I knew I wanted to avoid driving in Rome. Instead, we would use trains and buses for our 3-day stay near the city. That meant lugging our suitcases up and down steps and along local streets for eight challenging blocks and eventually up and into a tiny elevator that was more like a closet. We had arrived and were extremely grateful for that fact, just the same.
After a quick change of clothes and some minor guidance retrieved from the internet in our new apartment, we went to the Ostia Centro de Lido station to buy train tickets to venture into Rome. An hour and a half later, having taken a regional train and two bus rides (one of which was wrong), David and I chanced to hop off the bus to an area that “looked familiar” to me, only to find we were a few blocks from the Pantheon – which few people in Rome seemed able to help us locate.
Rome is not like it appears in the movies. The ruins and significant sites are all at different parts of the city, embedded deeply into areas that are not quite “safe” and surrounded often by graffitied buildings with cars, buses, motorcycles, and pedestrians walking, driving, and rushing around in a frenzied pace that seems more like an ant hill than a world-renowned tourist zone. There are seldom any signs advising anyone where to find the attractions – and without being able to speak the language, bus drivers can’t help.
Which is why it’s such a miracle that we found the Pantheon at all. Despite my online guidance regarding which buses to utilize, we soon discovered that the drivers couldn’t help us. One even advised us – in Italian – to return to the central train station and start over.
By the grace of God, we found the ruin, nevertheless, and were so grateful! We also chanced upon a beautiful local church where we thanked our Creator along the way. Although we later found the Trevi Fountain – which we were hoping to visit – we were so exhausted by that time that we gave up on locating the Spanish Steps and decided to turn back.
Somewhere along our route, we found a Tourist Information booth and a kind gentleman who gave us directions to utilize trains instead of buses for our return journey. Everything was going well until we disembarked from our first train. It was there that we followed the crowd and ended up outside the turnstiles by accident. Unable to reenter the station without buying new tickets, we purchased new ones outside the station and then rushed back into the platform we thought would take us to our regional train for the return trip to Ostia.
Unfortunately, in our frenzy, we ended up on the right platform but on the wrong track. Jumping onto the rapidly departing train, we soon realized we were going the wrong way: back into Rome. Exiting at the next station, we waited for the right train to move back to our previous stop, where we’d mistakenly left the station. Having learned from our past mistakes, we rushed down and back up to the right side of the tracks to catch the correct regional train to our apartment. Arriving back at nearly 8:30 pm, we still had to purchase food for a meal at the end of an extremely long day.
As exhaustion set in, David and I became quieter and quieter – very unlike our usual jubilant selves. I could feel the day’s tension becoming more and more profound as hunger and fatigue became an oppressive force. It would have been easy for tempers to flare, disappointment to rule, and frustration from the day to overshadow what should have been a beautiful start to our long-awaited honeymoon. While I fretted that David was disappointed in our first day’s activities, he remained silent, and I was so grateful. We had vowed to each other long before this trip that we would not let the devil get to us. On this day, the first of our journey, he had been using every weapon in his arsenal to do so. We couldn’t let him win.
Instead, David and I chose to hold our tongues and remain as positive as possible in our lethargy.
After gathering a few essentials from a local store near the train station, we walked back to our apartment in quiet submission to the day. I remember praying for God to keep us strong and help us end well. After baking our fantastic find of a salami and provolone cheese pizza, David and I crashed in grateful surrender to a comfortable bed in utter exhaustion from our less-than-perfect but still remarkably blessed excursion.
The following morning, I awoke to a beautiful sky and a fresh new day – with no mistakes in it. In our languor, I slept for 9.5 hours and David for over 13. Although we couldn’t figure out how to use the apartment’s automatic espresso machine, we YouTubed advice on how to make stovetop espresso and started our morning with laughter and joy, once again, at God’s grace and provision. We were in Italy, we were learning new things, and we were on our honeymoon. Nothing else mattered but each other and the God who had brought us together.
And so, we continued our adventures with a new perspective on that bright, blessed morning – our second day in sunny Roma. Love conquers all – which is all that really matters in the end.
What we started on day one of our trip, David and I would continue throughout our Italian honeymoon. We vowed to stop at every church we could along our pilgrimage to constantly thank God for bringing us on such an incredible trek of unexpected joy and triumph. We know how blessed we were to take such an extraordinary journey together.
Even so, our trip was all the more remarkable due to God’s incredible love gifts of perfect weather, good health, and safe passage every day we traveled. As further evidence of the same, once we returned home to America, I was battered by an aggressive case of COVID that I could have contracted at any point during our expedition. I never did.
If that wasn’t enough, we later learned that the Italian weather took an abrupt turn for the worse – with high winds, torrential rain, and cold temperatures – just a few days after we left the country. Had we traveled a week later, we could never have completed even ten percent of all the walking, hiking, standing in line, driving, and sightseeing we accomplished every day of our journey. We would have had a completely different trip had either of us been sick or if the weather had been wretched. These facts serve as additional reminders of our Savior’s grace and protection.
In hindsight, David and I know that whether we’re at home or traveling, touring churches or facing challenges, fighting COVID or just muddling through our regular workdays, God is always with us, always blessing us, and always providing just what we need at precisely when we need it. We will always be grateful to our Heavenly Father for every trial and triumph that He places in our lives. Nothing that touches us is ever wasted, and we will never stop praising Him for His mercy and provision.
We met on a church bus – Italian honeymoon, Part 1
Give praise to the LORD, proclaim His name; make known among the nations what He has done. (1 Chronicles 16:8)
On Wednesday, September 27th, David and I departed the U.S. on the first day of our official, long-overdue honeymoon. It hardly felt real to me, even as I listened to a pre-recorded safety message onboard our first flight – in Italian! Wow! The last time I traveled to Italy was with my mom in 2015 – eight years ago – which feels like a lifetime. Even then, I could never have imagined returning to Italy with my soulmate, my best friend, my incredible husband, David, who loves me.
David loves me! What a gift love is! There’s nothing else like it in all the world. God has blessed me beyond belief, and I am so grateful! Glory to God!
For the past few weeks, I’ve been working 10–12-hour days to be able to leave work in a good place without feeling guilty for taking time off. In addition to planning a 62-person, 3-day meeting in Katowice (pronounced like “pizza”), Poland, I support eight executives now. Four are traveling in October and also traveled in September. I’ve been coordinating their travel as much, if not more, than mine.
Honestly, my work has been completely overwhelming, so having this time away is a Godsend in many ways. I need a good rest – and while I know this trip will be challenging on many levels, I’m not alone as I always have been. This time is different. This time, I have David. This time, I have a partner. This time – for the first time ever – I know I am perfectly loved.
I am perfectly loved. Nothing on earth is as powerful, empowering, energizing, fulfilling, and beautiful as love. Nothing the world can offer can ever satisfy every longing of one’s soul like love.
As I said in my vows, all I ever wanted was to be perfectly loved. Even as a young person, I knew acceptance was impossible without love. No matter where I sought it, the only true love I ever felt was from God. No one could ever love me like God did. I knew that – and yet, I still hoped and prayed I’d find a love like my Creator’s. I didn’t – until David.
In David, I am whole. My satisfaction is beyond complete – it’s overflowing. I know how to find joy in God’s beauty and majesty. Still, I never knew what sharing God’s love with anyone else was like. How could I? I didn’t have David yet!
With David, I can now reflect on God’s glory with someone who understands it like I do. With David, I can celebrate the beauty of a bejeweled sunset or the incredulity of a visiting hummingbird as it flits from flower to flower. With David, I see reverence for our Savior reflected back to me. With David, through the power of God’s mercy, I am complete.
And so, despite my long, stressful work nights, and although the day began in a challenging manner as we rushed to the airport, I now feel peace, gratitude, and satisfaction such as I’ve never known.
While I felt relief in finally talking to the owner of the first apartment we rented in our 16-day, 16-city tour of Italy to get check-in instructions during our layover, my relief came from more than this assurance. Knowing that I now have David and God is all the stress relief I will ever need.
No matter what tomorrow brings, I am with my God-given soulmate – and that’s all I’ll ever need. I have peace such as I’ve never known and am so grateful.
What a joy to be loved! What a blessing to marry a man who loves me with a passion equal to mine. What bliss to be on my honeymoon with my David.
We met on a church bus. We got married and are honeymooning in Italy. Glory to God! I am blessed beyond measure, indeed.
So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. (Isaiah 41:10)
Last week, David and I were privileged to deploy to Perry, FL, to assist Samaritan’s Purse (SP) in disaster relief work again – this time, post-Hurricane Idalia. Idalia made landfall as a Category 3 hurricane on August 30th near Keaton Beach, FL. While Keaton Beach may have been Ground Zero, the sleepy town of Perry, FL – located roughly 20 miles northwest of Keaton – still took a severe blow from the storm. Downed trees punctured homes and knocked out power across the community, where gas pumps were ripped from the ground and businesses caught fire.
David and I arrived a week after the hurricane hit Perry, so clean-up efforts were already in full swing. With three-hundred and fifty-nine remaining work orders for tarping roofs, debris removal, and tree clean-up services, SP still needed strong arms and servant hearts to help with the mission. Fortunately, that’s just what David and I came prepared to bring. With more service requests coming daily, that original number had grown to over five hundred open work orders by the time we headed home.
Each night after dinner, overnight volunteers spend about fifteen minutes sharing our “God Stories” with one another. This time is rejuvenating as we hear of daily conversions or other significant moments when God “showed up” through the work we’re privileged to perform on His behalf.
For the first two nights of our stay, one of our team leaders, G, spoke of a particular homeowner’s son who weighed heavily on his heart. Robby, he’d learned, had a troubled past, which included heavy drug use that caused him to lose most of his teeth and gained him a criminal record. Robby also told G that he was a former Wiccan. Wicca is a pagan religion whose members meet in Covens to deify a mother goddess or horned god. Wicca rituals often “invoke a deity to enter and possess a coven member, often termed ‘drawing down the moon.'”
Having woken from a deep sleep at 3:00 am the morning after he’d met Robby, G felt compelled to pray for another opportunity to witness to this needy soul. After sharing his first encounter during our God Stories time with our entire volunteer workforce of about eighty workers, we all prayed for Robby before retiring for the evening.
The next night, G shared the news that Robby appeared from the woods that afternoon, just as his team was preparing to leave after working at Robby’s home. As he’d prayed to do, G shared the Gospel of Christ with Robby, who’d told G that he “didn’t know he could come back.” G told Robby that God had been waiting for him since the day he was “woven together in his mother’s womb.” (Psalm 139:13)
After hearing this news, Robby pledged his life to Christ – later telling G that it “felt like a weight had been lifted” from his body. We all cheered and celebrated upon learning of this new, precious addition to our heavenly family.
The next day, unbeknownst to me, I experienced my own encounter with Robby – never realizing who he was until late in our conversation.
After a morning spent tarping and clearing another homeowner’s property of downed branches, our team moved to our next assignment – securing a large SP tarp to a damaged mobile home’s roof. While several of our team members had already ventured inside to view the damaged ceilings, I only did so when the owner’s son escorted a fellow team member to view his “lucky mattress.” It never occurred to me that my tour guide was the same Robby we had all prayed for.
After showing us his mattress – newly housed in the living room – Robby walked us back to his empty bedroom, showing us the open roof where a massive tree had fallen on his house during the storm. More phenomenal than seeing the ceiling split open and smashed inward, I was awestruck by the sight of the roof’s crossbeams pushed down and splintered apart– stopping just above where Robby was sleeping. While the beams themselves were not massive, between the two broken boards stood a footlong piece of lumber that had broken free to form a wooden dagger – dangling precariously above the precise location where Robby’s head and chest were lying on his bed.
“That’s where you were sleeping?” I asked Robby, incredulously.
“Yes. When the tree hit, I barrel-rolled out of my bed and ran out of the room screaming,” exclaimed Robby.
“That wood could’ve easily punctured your head or heart,” I commented. “But God protected you. You are here for a reason.”
After agreeing, Robby escorted me outside and behind his mobile home to see the tree stump G and his team had carved for him with a chainsaw. In the center of the wood sat a carved image of three crosses on a hill – a simple reminder of the Gospel story.
“That’s beautiful,” I said before asking Robby if I could take his picture beside the carving. He agreed, and we continued our walk around his parents’ property.
Struck by the four-and-a-half-foot-tall tree roots that had been wholly unearthed in the storm, I advised Robby that he now has a tangible reminder of how mighty God is.
“Anyone that thinks that God isn’t real or that He’s not all-powerful has never seen the damage His hand can invoke during a storm,” I said. “Just think how well rooted this tree was, and yet God’s hand pulled it up as if it was nothing. So many people deny God and yet He, alone, is in charge of everything – not us.”
Robby agreed, saying, “I know. You’re right.”
After returning to the front yard, Robby and I moved to the shade, where Robby squatted down, and I knelt to talk more.
I asked Robby if he’d met with any chaplains this week. He confirmed that he had while explaining that he’d also received a signed SP Bible from the team that cleared his trees the day before.
“I even read some of it last night,” said Robby.
“That’s great!” I exclaimed. “The Bible is God’s living Word. A passage you read today might mean something different to you tomorrow. You need to read that Bible every day to stay close to God. More than a sermon, God’s Word will guide you in how you should live.”
“I’ve made a lot of mistakes in my life,” Robby confessed. “I’ve been a Wiccan and have a criminal record, but I feel lighter after talking to everyone this week.”
Only after his confession did I realize I was talking to the same Robby that our teams had been praying for the past two nights. I said a silent prayer at that moment, asking my Heavenly Father to give me the right words to say to this precious soul.
“We’re all sinners, Robby,” I told him. “Including me. God gave us all free will. We each have to decide what decisions we’re going to make – good or bad. Whatever choices you’ve made in the past, God has forgiven you and spared you for a reason.”
Robby then explained that he had two young children, ages five and one, living with their mother in Tampa. He further commented about how spoiled they are.
“That’s my heart, right there,” Robby said, “When I heard that the storm was coming to Tampa, I prayed that it would come here instead.”
“Well, it sure did!” I exclaimed. “God used this storm for His purpose. Never forget that God saved you.”
“I know it,” Robby agreed.
“I don’t know anything about your father,” I explained, “but your Heavenly Father loves you more than anything. He loved you before you were born – even before you were in your mother’s womb. He’s been waiting for you all this time. When you look at those crosses on that tree stump, I hope you’ll always remember that Jesus loves you so much that He would have died to save you – even if you were the only person on earth. That’s how important you are to Him.”
“Some people think that God is like some kind of grandfather,” I continued, “and that being a Christian will make everything alright. He’s not and it doesn’t. God is love, yes, but He doesn’t spoil us. He lets us make our own choices. Sometimes, we pay a heavy price for our mistakes.”
“Still, God’s love is all around us,” I said. “He could have made the world black and white, but He didn’t. Instead, we have light and color and beauty wherever we look. I call such things love gifts from God.”
“Oh, I know,” Robby agreed. “I was watching that heat lighting last night and it was beautiful. I used to look at such things and only see darkness and evil. Now, I’m starting to see things in a whole new way.”
“That’s God’s love inside you,” I said. “You just have to open your heart to see it.”
Noticing the pentagram on the inside of Robby’s right wrist, I continued.
“The devil has been fighting for you your whole life,” I stated. “But so has God. He was right beside you in that storm.”
“God saved you for a reason,” I repeated. Cupping my hand in demonstration, I continued. “When that tree fell, He placed His mighty hand between you and those wooden beams. It was at that moment that God said, ‘No further.’ He allowed everything to happen even while He was still protecting you.”
“We don’t know what the purpose of all this is, but even if it’s only so you can be a Christian father in your children’s lives, that’s another miracle. Your kids need you. They need a Christian dad to lead them the way they should go.”
Robby explained that after talking with G and the chaplains the day before, he received a call for a temporary job, which meant a lot to him. Serving as a millwright in a paper mill during a factory shutdown, Robby would be paid as a subcontractor to go into the boilers and other equipment to perform repairs.
“That’s a blessing,” he articulated. “I need to work. I don’t have enough money in my wallet to make cents.” We both laughed at Robby’s pun as he and I got up and moved over to the rest of our team, who were packing our truck for departure.
“We’ll be praying for you, Robby,” I promised. “We’re all praying for you.”
“Thank you,” he said. “That’s dangerous work I’ll be doing during the shutdown.”
“God is with you,” I confirmed. “We’ll all keep praying.”
After praying with Robby and his family, his mother retrieved the SP Bible given to him the day before. I signed it, as did another of our team members, before we hugged everyone and said our goodbyes. We invited Robby and his family to join us for dinner at the church, but he declined, saying he needed to pack for his trip to GA.
“That’s a standing invitation,” I said. “You’re welcome to visit the church for dinner anytime you can make it. We’d all love to have you there.”
“Thank you,” was Robby’s sole reply. “Everyone who’s come here to help has been great!”
And so, we left – feeling blessed to have heeded our Creator’s call to help. There’s always more kingdom work to be done, and David and I stand ready to perform whatever we’re asked to do. Even though this work was unexpectedly different than what we did in Ft. Myers, I feel privileged to have interacted with Robby and the other homeowners we served.
After inquiring with our volunteer coordinator, I learned that SP gives the contact information of all those we’ve assisted to our base camp church. Their follow-up is crucial – especially to newly saved Christians like Robby. While our actions help restore the damaged property of natural disaster victims, our servants’ hearts demonstrate the love of Christ, even as our chaplains’ words guide these homeowners into the family of God. Nothing is more important than making an eternal difference to wounded souls.
As one of our SP leaders in Ft. Myers said last fall, they’ll use anything – including a chainsaw – to share the love of Christ with the world. We are all covered by God’s grace. How can we not tell others how amazing that is?
You know where I go and where I lie down. You know everything I do. Lord, even before I say a word, you already know it. You are all around me—in front and in back— and have put your hand on me. Your knowledge is amazing to me; it is more than I can understand. Where can I go to get away from your Spirit? Where can I run from you? (Psalm 139:3-7)
A few weeks ago, David got a little more than he bargained for in his latest house renovation. What started as a simple modernization of a few electrical outlets in his former office took an unexpected turn in both project scope and discovery.
David’s VA Beach house was built in 1962, so most of the electrical outlets are ungrounded – meaning, you can’t just plug a standard device into them. The outlets are currently equipped to receive 2-prong plugs – not the standard 3-prong plugs that most modern electronics require. Updating his former home is a strategic goal of David’s, so upgrading the outlets is an integral part of this process.
Before we could start laying new Pergo flooring in his former office, David emptied the room and prepared to make a few minor cuts in the walls to access the outlets. After turning off the electricity, David soon learned that an unexpected nick to one of the cords had severed power to the room.
To repair the damage, David needed to rip open the wall to run new wire into the space. Convoluted wiring inevitably required multiple walls to be opened for David to make his repairs. Up, down, and sideways, the home’s wiring led from just a few feet off the floor into the attic and back down again – only to return up, down, and sideways across the room.
“This wiring is a mess,” David explained when I peeked into the room. “They must have used 20-feet more wire than was necessary.”
“Wow,” was all I could say after glimpsing the plaster-covered drop-cloth and open walls for the first time. “I was wondering what was going on in here.”
After a night spent contemplating his next course of action, David made his final cuts to the plaster close to the room’s entrance.
That’s when he made his unexpected discovery. “Honey, you should see what I found in the wall,” David called.
“If it’s dead bugs, I’d rather not see them,” I rebuffed. I have a mortal hatred of insects that cross the threshold, as David has learned.
“It’s not bugs,” David replied. “Come see!”
The wall behind David’s office door always boasted a hand-sized hole – presumably from where the doorknob had dinged the plaster. In addition to repairing the wiring, David anticipated patching the spot when he took on this “small” project.
Much to our amazement, David unearthed a treasure trove of children’s toys while cutting this final wall, presumably dropped into the space by a former occupant. Freed from their confinement, the following storehouse of trinkets sat sprawled across the floor for my viewing amazement:
3 Matchbox cars
A 2” rubber Ernie and his fellow Sesame Street buddy, Elmo
A 2” tall rubber horse
A 3-legged, 4” black velvet-covered horse
A blue and yellow felt hat – screen-printed with the word “Sprint” across the folded headband
A vinyl, bifold Spiderman wallet (sans money, sorry to say. I checked, of course.)
“Oh, my gosh,” I exclaimed upon witnessing David’s discoveries. “I’ll bet the parents of whoever dropped those toys in the wall were always wondering where they escaped to!”
As we laughed over the tiny treasures, I couldn’t resist saying, “Too bad you didn’t find any gold doubloons in there. Let me know if you do!”
While later pondering David’s unexpected bounty, I couldn’t help but wonder what possessed that young child from placing his or her toys in the wall. Surely, he or she learned quickly that such an action couldn’t be undone. There was simply no way to unearth the bounty without massive repercussions. Was the child simply done with the toys and didn’t care about them anymore – or was there excitement in merely hiding the trophies? Could this act have been vengeful, or was he or she too young to know better?
We’ll never know, but the considerations got me thinking of how we, as Christians, frequently believe we can do the same. How often do we try to hide our sinful nature, hoping no one will notice what we’re doing in private? Do we ever consider the penalties of such sin or the ramifications of the same? While we may get away with our actions for a time, such efforts are pointless.
The Bible has a lot to say about hidden sin. Here are just a few examples:
Nothing is covered up that will not be revealed or hidden that will not be known. (Luke 12:2)
Nothing is hidden that will not be made manifest, nor is anything secret that will not be known and come to light. (Luke 8:17)
Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap. (Galatians 6:7)
In short, God sees and knows everything. We may successfully hide our transgressions from earthly eyes, but our Heavenly Father can never be deceived. That thought always sobers me as I contemplate standing before the throne of God and giving an account of my life’s deeds – both good and bad. I long to hear Christ say, “Well done, good and faithful servant!” (Matthew 25: 21) Anything less would be incredibly disappointing.
I believe honesty to be the best policy, as a result – and I vow always to be transparent and open with my husband, as I am with everyone. David and I spent hours revealing all the skeletons in our closets long before we ever got serious about one another. I never want there to be any secrets between the two of us.
More importantly, my wrongdoings can never be hidden from my Heavenly Father – which matters to me more than anything. “Behold, you have sinned against the Lord, and be sure your sin will find you out.” (Numbers 32:23)
And so, David and I will keep our walls tight – never hiding our blemishes or treasures from one another or God. After all, short of gold doubloons being buried in the walls, I never want to later uncover anything that will damage my relationship with my husband – or my Creator. May we all do the same.
Jesus replied, “All who love me will do what I say. My Father will love them, and We will come and make Our home with each of them.” (John 14:23)
David and I recently celebrated our 5-month wedding/10-month meeting anniversary on August 12th. Although I realize we’re still considered newlyweds, our love and appreciation for each other are timeless.
How many people marry and tire of each other in just a few weeks or months? Far too many, I fear. And yet, David and I can barely stand to be apart. We’ve waited a lifetime to be together, so every moment is a gift.
That statement is far from hyperbole. With my full-time, remote employment and David’s general retirement status, we are blessed to spend nearly every hour of every day together. We couldn’t do that if our lives weren’t so harmonious. Time apart is as minimal as we can muster. Togetherness, in my estimation, is the truest test of enduring love. We could easily tire of one another if we weren’t well-suited.
As someone who was previously married for 14 and then 12 years, respectively, I’ve lived on the opposite side of the spectrum for far too long. As a Christian woman married to professed believers who turned out not to share my faith, I used to feel it was my duty to be the best spouse I could be – all the while praying for hearts to change that had no desire to do so. For 26 years of my life, I endured physical and psychological abuse believing God would convert souls that were both immovable and unrepentant. Pray as I might, our incompatibilities and unequal yokes made for decades of misery that I’ve worked hard to forget. I never had five days or five even hours of anything good in those relationships – let alone five months.
All of that changed when God brought David into my world. My life, my entire existence is different with him. David and I thrive when we’re together and never tire of each other. Before every meal, we consistently pray – thanking God for the miracle of our love. Every day, we laugh, affirm, hold, kiss, and cherish each other more profoundly than the day before.
Every day, we gaze into each other’s eyes and celebrate the incredulity of finding one another. “We met on a bus” or “We got married” are our frequent refrains as we revel in the joy of such blessings. Simple as they sound, these declarations never cease to astound either one of us. We know the Originator of our happiness, and we are so grateful for the same. Our meeting, our compatibility, and our love for one another are all based on our joint devotion to God. We met because we both surrendered to our Savior. Two strangers from different states met under seemingly random circumstances to serve God – never imagining that in doing so, we would find our long-sought soulmates.
And yet, here we are.
Still, David and I didn’t just meet on a bus, nor did we just happen to get married. I told David we need to refine our simple declarations to better reflect the magnitude of God’s magnificence.
David and I met on a Samaritan’s Purse bus after surrendering our lives to our Heavenly Father’s calling. In response to a natural disaster and in joint service to our Creator, it was there that we found the other piece of ourselves that we’d been searching for since birth. Had we not surrendered, we would never have received the blessing we hold in our hands and hearts today – true love and absolute compatibility. How else can we explain how we can love the same music (from contemporary Christian to classical), the same food (from spaghetti to seafood), and identical taste in movies and TV shows (from period dramas like “All Creatures Great and Small” to epic motion pictures like “Lord of the Rings”). Thankfully, there’s never any fighting over the remote control in our household.
David and I understand what it means to work hard – which is a good thing as we’re continually doing so. With the heavy responsibilities of maintaining our GA home as well as my mom’s when she is in CO, our yard work never ends. Two weeks out of every month, we travel back to VA Beach – where we are now – to work on David’s former house or renovation jobs that involve massive, manual labor. I often ask David if he could have ever imagined working with his wife in such a way. He always responds with a resounding, “Never!” Whether we’re digging ditches or re-shingling a roof, we still take the time to kiss, hug, and say “I love you” a thousand times a day.
Most importantly, throughout our hectic, helter-skelter existence, we cling to one another and God – celebrating the gift of true love presented to us by our Savior.
Although David and I didn’t do anything special on our anniversary, just being together was reason enough to celebrate. We both worked on renovation projects in our GA yard that day – me sanding a metal bird bath and David spreading epoxy on iron chairs – prepping both for repainting. As I began my project, I paused to turn on one of my favorite contemporary Christian music channels to praise God while I worked.
The first song played was one from our wedding – a favorite of ours by Jeremy Camp, entitled “Getting Started.” As the opening chords began, recognition dawned. David and I immediately gravitated to one another, as we always do, dancing and singing the lyrics to one another and God.
Looking up at the sky while we danced, I was struck by a 2-year-old memory of crying out to my Creator in a rare moment of abject loneliness while formerly working alone in my yard. I still remember the emotions that flooded my spirit as I looked up and told God how much I loved Him – even as my heart despaired at the absence of earthly love. As the cleansing tears streamed down my face, I recall surrendering my despondency to my Heavenly Father. In complete submission to His will, my Creator filled my spirit with His love and faithfulness – as He always did – providing me with everything I needed to go on.
Flash forward to our anniversary. As David and I danced in my yard, singing to God and each other, the tears fell anew as I realized how God always knows what I need when I need it. Two years ago, God knew then – as He always has – what He had in store for my future. I could never have imagined my resounding joy in finding David. Never in my wildest dreams could I have foreseen the beauty that would fill my soul at the reality of being loved.
And yet, here we are.
God’s promises are real. God has always made a home for me and David. Whether we have five years or five millennia together, David and I know how blessed we are. Every day is a gift from God. All we did was heed our Creator’s call. In doing so, our Heavenly Father fulfilled His promise to us. As Christ said, “All who love me will do what I say. My Father will love them, and We will come and make Our home with each of them.” (John 14:23)
Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom. (Psalm 90:12)
Three weeks ago, David and I flew to VA Beach to meet with his urologist to receive the results of his prostate biopsy. We only stayed for two nights as my mom was visiting GA – so we couldn’t be gone long. During our return flight, I wrote a blog on my phone – one painstaking letter at a time. I wanted to capture my thoughts while they were fresh in my head and had the time to do so.
Since we’ve been married, our days are so full that little time remains for me to write – and I miss doing so daily. Between a full work week, evenings and weekends are always spent catching up on yard duties before we return to one or the other of our houses to do the same there. Twice monthly travels between VA Beach and GA make me feel like a bit of a vagabond, but the trips are necessary. Until David’s VA Beach house is ready to sell or rent, we generally spend two to two and a half weeks at either location.
This evening, I was determined to write. At a minimum, I wanted to post the blog I’d written on the plane but never had a chance to edit and upload until finally claiming the time to do so.
And so, it was with great disappointment that I learned the words and emotions I’d captured three weeks ago were gone – vanished, deleted, irretrievably lost.
For a writer, losing words ostensibly secured in the heat of heady sentiment is tantamount to experiencing a knife wound to the gut.
And yet, I know I am exceedingly blessed. Lost words mean nothing compared to what David and I gained during our last trip.
Despite David’s grim potential cancer prognosis, what we’ve been praying for all along has been confirmed – David is cancer-free! How he went from a high probability of stage 3 or 4 prostate cancer to not one cancer cell in his body can only be laid at the feet of Christ. David is healthy, happy, and whole. Upon hearing the results in his urologist’s office, all the two of us could say was, “Yay, God!”
As we hugged and wiped the tears from our eyes before leaving the exam room, one of the staff members poked her head in to make sure we were alright. “Yes, ma’am,” I said. “We’re just happy!”
“Tears of joy,” David confirmed.
Indeed, our Heavenly Father delivered what we’d prayed and trusted God for. The Divine Physician had healed David’s body from the inside out. There’s no doubt in my mind as to the veracity of that claim.
Even David’s urologist seemed stunned. To be confident of the results, the doctor who’d performed the procedure made 24 cuts in 4 regions of David’s prostate – far more than are usually taken.
“I knew it,” I exclaimed as David’s urologist revealed his surgical findings. God has always been in complete control – and David has much more Kingdom work to do than the original prognosis seemed to allow.
While flying above the clouds on our return journey to GA, I remember looking out and being struck by the cloud structures beneath us. What began as a clear sky quickly became overcast, and I could see nothing beneath us.
And yet blue sky prevailed. Above the clouds, God sees everything.
Our Creator has already foreseen what we can often only discern one foot at a time. Clear, turbulent, or stormy skies aside, God is always with us, and nothing ever takes Him by surprise. As the Apostle Matthew reminds us, “Are not two sparrows sold for a penny? Yet not one of them will fall to the ground outside your Father’s care.” (10:29)
I’ve always said that every day is a gift – even more so now that I have David to spend the rest of my days with. While every gift may not always be what I want or hope for, I’ve learned to appreciate each offering as a gesture of love presented by someone who cares. If I believe that sentiment to be true – and I do – how much more should I appreciate what my Heavenly Father gives me?
While I may have lost the words I first captured weeks ago, I know how I feel now. I am blessed beyond measure and thank God daily for his unspeakable gifts.
No matter how many days I have left to spend with my beloved husband, I value all of them. I spent too much of my life without David to ever underestimate the great worth of having him beside me now.
May we never forget how precious our loved ones are. Each of us has only been given a defined number of days here on Earth. May we spend each of them praising God and serving our Creator.