Tag: #Love

He who began a good work in you

He who began a good work in you

Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus. (Philippians 1:6)

It’s no secret that David and I have spent much time modernizing and upgrading his VA Beach home to sell or eventually rent it. Overall, we have spent two or more weeks there every month since we’ve been married – the only exception being while honeymooning in Italy last fall.

We initially estimated the work to take about six months. It’s been fifteen – and we’re still unsure when we’ll be done. Everything takes longer than expected. 

And then there are the “distractions” – side jobs, doctor’s appointments, and surgical procedures, for example. All these things slow everything down and delay progress.  

While we need the side jobs to help pay for the restoration work, bills, and unexpected expenses – like insurance-mandated tree pruning and a broken air conditioner – I’m a “get-er-done” kind of gal, which can make delays a bit frustrating. 

Combine that with the difficulty of managing our and my mom’s GA yards (her vacation home is next to ours), and it becomes increasingly difficult for us to be away during the summer. Our last trip to VA Beach lasted three weeks. We traveled back the Sunday before Memorial Day and spent the holiday cutting grass, weed eating, clearing vines, and picking up fallen limbs. I worked my paying job the next day, then packed for David and me to travel to Texas to see his cousins to celebrate his birthday. The trip was my birthday gift to him.

From left to right: David, Moose (a miniature golden retriever), David’s cousin Nan, Nan’s husband John, and, David‘s cousin Linda all enjoy a ride in John’s boat on Possum Kingdom Lake in Texas.

Needless to say, I was exhausted traveling between VA Beach, Georgia, and Texas. At a breaking point, I cried to David about how tired I was – telling him I didn’t know how much longer I could continue to go back and forth every month, working in Virginia, trying to keep our Georgia home up, and then taking a trip in the middle of it all. “We need the renovation work to be done,” I said. “It’s too much. I need a break.” 

As always, God was listening. Ironically, the answer to my prayer for rest was answered most unexpectedly.

On our second night in Texas, David said he didn’t feel well. By the middle of the night, I, too, became sick. Vomiting and diarrhea kept me up and rushing to the bathroom until dawn.

While all I wanted to do was stay in bed, we were expected to leave David’s cousin’s lake house that same day to drive back to Dallas. David’s family had hoped for us to all stay at the lake during our visit, but home responsibilities called everyone back earlier. 

Nan and John’s lake house is nestled on a corner of Costello Island off of Possum Kingdom Lake, TX.

Not knowing what had made me sick in the night, I was hesitant to say anything to our hosts. We planned to make the best of it and pray I didn’t get sick along the two-and-a-half-hour journey to their city home. Instead, while I was lying down upstairs, David revealed my sickness to his cousins. 

In God’s infinite mercy, we learned that an extra car was available so David and I could leave later, allowing everyone else to depart as planned. While we anticipated only a minor delay before we, too, hit the road, when David began vomiting, everything changed. David and I would spend the night at the lake and head to Dallas the next day. That decision changed everything. 

Sick as we were, David and I were finally able to relax. Without the need to interact with the others, David and I took the time to lay down, look at the water, and just “Be still and know that I am God.” (Psalm 46:10)

David and I spent our time together cuddling together and relaxing before leaving the lake.

“We’ve never been sick together,” I remember telling David after our new plans had been announced. 

“If we have to be sick together, this is a beautiful place for it to happen,” David retorted, to which I wholeheartedly agreed.

The magnificent view of Possum Kingdom Lake from the back porch of Nan and John’s lake house.

For the remainder of the day, David and I took the long overdue break we needed. After scavenging some soup in the closet, we didn’t just make the best of our time alone – sick or not – we celebrated it as an unexpected blessing. 

The following day was David’s birthday, and I woke up feeling well enough to jump into the lake – literally. Not only that, but David and I both tried out his extended family’s paddleboard and truly appreciated the beauty of the place. Above and beyond the brilliant sunshine gracing our last day there, the fluffy cottonwood seeds gently wafting through the air made everything seem positively magical.

Even though I got sick again later that evening at David’s cousin’s Dallas home, it was all worth it to see the love heaped upon my husband by everyone on his birthday. The following day, I enjoyed some blissful rest, which allowed David exclusive time to catch up with everyone on his own – yet another unexpected blessing.

David’s cousins, Nan (left) and Linda (right) treated David to a special dinner and petit fours on his birthday.

While flying back to GA the next day, I couldn’t help but thank God for using sickness to give me the time I needed to rest and recover from my fatigue. No matter what lies ahead in David’s home renovation and no matter how long it takes to complete the work to his satisfaction, I know God is with us. It’s His bond that ties David and me so closely together. He is the cord that will keep us close – despite the stress of fatigue, delays, medical issues, travel, and work.

We will always be grateful for God’s great hand of provision that sustains us. While everything may not always go precisely as we’d planned, that’s okay. Sometimes, the ride is bumpy and full of turbulence. Other times, our skies are clear, and all is well. Whether we’re above, below, or in the clouds, God is always with us and will see us through. 

Beautiful skies awaited us as David and I flew back to Jacksonville, FL after our TX getaway.

After all, “He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 1:6) We know God will continue to give us strength to see this renovation work through until its conclusion and we are so grateful.

I got you

I got you

So now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love. (1 Corinthians 13:13)

For most of my life, Valentine’s Day was a somber reminder of how unloved I always felt. Visits to the store around this holiday always made me feel like I was the oddball, never knowing what it was like to feel truly loved. Worse yet, my desire for unselfish love was called “unrealistic” by my former abusive spouses. The desire to love and be loved that God planted in my heart at a young age was “unachievable,” I was told. As a result, I believed the kind of love I hoped for could never be real. It was a fairy tale, an illusion, a stupid, unattainable, idealistic notion. Sad as that was, I acknowledged and accepted that as reality.

Wedding day, VA Beach – March 12, 2023

Mercifully, God thought differently – and sent me David.

Knowing that I am now unconditionally loved every single day still seems surreal to me. And yet, here I am, still in awe of finding my soulmate – the one person God created for me even as he crafted me for him. I still find myself asking my husband, “Are you for real?”

“Every day is Valentine’s Day to us,” I told David in the lead-in to the candy-crusted celebration. “Every day, we have love, love, love – not just on one day of the year. I love you more every day, and that’s never going to change.”

Cinque Terre, Italy – October 2023

Our love story spans the ages. I never tire of hugging, kissing, and telling David how much he means to me. Our prayers always start by thanking God for “love, love, love.” No matter what passes between us, we are committed to staying as much in love today as we were when David asked me to marry him.

But how can we do so? I can answer that question with a single word – God. God is the cord that ties the two of us together. Romans 5:8 says, “But God demonstrates His love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Can anyone imagine a love like that? David and I can. Each of us would gladly lay down our lives for one another. We can’t imagine a world where we aren’t together. Isn’t that just how our Creator feels? “For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life.” (John 3:16)

Torrey Pines Natural State Reserve, La Jolla, CA – January 2024

And what about 1 John 4:19, which says, “We love because He first loved us”? Isn’t that precisely why our Creator joined David and me in marriage? We stepped out in faith to show God’s love to strangers, and in return, we can now be the embodiment of His love in action to one another. To David and me, love is precisely what our hearts always hoped for but never thought we’d find.

David and I found one another because of Christ. We know that. We thank God for that – daily, constantly, with every heartbeat. God is the cord that surrounds us. Jesus first demonstrated love by dying on the cross for our sins. And that unique, unselfish love ties the two of us together. We are unbreakable because of Christ.

Tavernier, Florida Keys, FL – December 2023

David and I each know that we could have spent the rest of our lives apart, serving God, worshipping our Savior, and praising Him for His mighty love in our lives. Instead, we not only have the Creator’s love but also share that same unquenchable, unexplainable, unbreakable love for one another that He has for the two of us – and all the world that He made. God doesn’t want us to be separated from Him – that’s why He sent His Son to bridge the chasm that would forever separate us from Him – sin. Christ’s sacrifice covered our sins with His love. The perfect blood of the Lamb allows us to live forever with our Creator for all eternity. We have only to acknowledge our sins, proclaim our need for a Savior, accept Jesus as God’s only Son into our hearts, and ask Him to make us new again.

La Jolla Beach, CA – January 2024

My wish to everyone reading these words is not that you will find your true love on earth but that you will acknowledge Jesus as your Savior first and let Him lead you to His great love. Without Christ, there can be no such thing as perfect love. You must begin with God and keep Him at the forefront of your heart and mind thereafter. Then, and only then, can you find and understand what real love is.

Valentine’s Day Banquet at our Brunswick GA church – February 2024

1 John 4:7 reminds us, “Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God.” Love isn’t a fairy tale. It’s obtainable and achievable by anyone who asks Christ into their heart. Do so today! Your lonely heart can be filled to overflowing when you invite Christ into your life to become your Savior. I’m a living, breathing testimony to the same.

I’ve always had Christ – and that thought kept me strong enough to hold on. If someone couldn’t love me like Christ could, I would rather be alone. Through all the fires, all the triumphs, and all the brokenness in my life – God was always with me.

And now – thanks to Jesus – I have David.

Invite Jesus inside you and let Him make you whole. He has always held you in the palm of His hand. Once you’ve asked Christ into your heart, you too will be able to say with as much joy as I do that “I got you.”