I love that we love the way we love

By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another. (John 13:35)

On Wednesday, March 12, 2025, David and I will celebrate our second wedding anniversary – a date made all the more special by the love that grows stronger with each passing day. I often marvel at the depth of love we hold for each other. When David smiles at me, I still get butterflies in my stomach. When I look at him, I can see how he melts with the force of the love in my gaze. Our love is a palpable substance that keeps us strong and bonded in a way I could have never imagined before our meeting.  

Before David and I married, we coined several phrases that we still call our “David and Sara-isms.” I wrote about this subject in a blog post about a month after marriage. We shared a few of these unique phrases with our wedding day guests:

• “Is this for real?” – Translation? This phrase is used constantly when David and Sara think about everything God has done to bring them together.
• “DOUBLE awesome!” – Translation? When David first told Sara that she was awesome, she replied that he was awesome, too. David asked Sara, “If you’re awesome and I’m awesome, what are we together?” Sara replied, “We are DOUBLE awesome!” The phrase stuck! You can use it, too, to explain that something is beyond amazing. It’s “DOUBLE awesome!”

One David and Sara-ism we often use is “Together forever, wherever!” The saying remains as factual today as the day we first uttered it. David and I are inseparable. My original advice to our wedding-goers was, “Make sure you use this phrase carefully as it indicates a perpetual state of togetherness.”

While some might think that living as such would grow old, I’m happy to say that it hasn’t – nor will it ever. We’ve always been together since I work from home and David is retired. We never get tired of that, nor do we need to separate ourselves to have “personal time”. While one of my friends strongly believes in the importance of the same, David and I have never desired separation. Sure, he goes to the store, and I work from my office for hours. I’m writing from the screen porch now, and David is in the living room. We’re not perpetually in the same room, nor do we feel the need to maintain constant communication.

Still, we remain “together forever, wherever.” The desire will never change – the hunger to be close, to know that the other person who completes you is never far away. We’ve both waited our entire lives to find each other. Why would we want to separate now?

Another powerful David and Sara-ism is “I love that we love the way we love.” While there may be redundancies in that statement, the truth is that every part of the phrase is significant. David and I don’t just love one another; we feel that love through every fiber in our bodies. It comprises who we are. We demonstrate it with our touches, glances, and “huggles” on the couch and how we cook for each other, respect each other’s opinions, and care for one another – even through our recent joint bouts of sinus infections.

Still, the third strand of love that God wraps around us each day makes our love most remarkable. Ecclesiastes 4:12 reminds us, “Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” The bond that David and I share started with God. He is wrapped around every part of our relationship. It’s demonstrated by how we pray together with our heads touching and arms around one another. We feel God’s love surround us during our thrice daily prayers, as we consistently start by thanking God for His love for us and each other.

David and I also grow stronger as we read our Heavenly Father’s Word together each evening. I am continually reminded as we do so that God’s love brought us to each other, and His love keeps our bond strong. We are rooted in Him, tied together by His strength and our mutual desire to serve, honor, and respect our Creator.

And so, I love that we love the way we love. As Christians, this is how all husbands and wives should love one another. It is also how we are to love our fellow believers and all those in the world. We are different because of our love for one another. We are survivors because of God’s strength. And we are conquerors over everything the devil throws at us through God’s power – not our own. (Romans 8:37)  

Beloved, we can show God to the world daily – let us do so by showing everyone our love. Romans 5:8 tells us, “But God demonstrates His own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” How could we demonstrate anything less as recipients of such a gift?

Let’s not let love remain inside us. Let’s show the world what it truly means to love until the whole world can shout – just as David and I do – “I love that you love the way you love.” After all, that’s how the world will know we are Christ’s disciples – by our love.